Posted by Anna
on July 24, 2000 at 17:05:21:
In Reply to: Re: Epileptic Wife posted by Ronald on April 18, 2000 at 21:40:48:
: : Hi.... I need some feedback from anybody who is married to epileptic wife. What will be the best advice if I were to marry to such person. reply appreciated... thanks.
: My reply is do you love her or not!!!! If this bothers you I would advise you to stay away from each other. She needs support from a strong person and she doesn't need to feel she has done something wrong.
Ok, I'm not married to an epileptic wife, I am one. My husband has been through a lot with me. I have been angry at doctors that have left me feeling like a defective person. Unhappy about side effects from seizure medication like dizziness, sleepiness, memory problems etc. I have been depressed after being denied individual medical insurance. When I was pregnant with our son, I had a grand mal seizure on a supermarket floor. The ambulance came for me, but my husband did not know which hospital that they took me to. My pregnancy was high risk due to the possibility of preeclamsia and I was put on bed rest for the last 3 months. When my healthy son was born, I was scared that I would have a seizure and drop him. I am a good person, a hard worker, a good housekeeper and a hot giving lover. Every person that you potentially marry will have baggage of one kind or another. My advise is to go into the doctor's office with your potential wife is possible and ask any questions you might have about type of seizure, effects of any medication, ability to have a family etc. Epilepsy has one characteristic, seizures, but encompasses many lifestyles. Some epileptics find the disorder easier to manage than others. Find out what type your future wife might have and what daily effect it might have on you. If after talking to her about it and asking a doctor any specific questions you might have, you feel comfortable with marrying her do it. Her good points of character should greatly outweigh the effects of the seizures. If they don't, you are marrying the wrong person. Let her have a husband that loves her completely. If she can find that as I have she will be very blessed. A