To judge the severity of a phobia or social anxiety, look to the level of effort that goes into avoidance and weigh the cost of this avoidance. Are there missed job opportunities or other unfortunate results?
Make a little time for yourself every day. Kids, work, and everyday life can be overwhelming and all encompassing. Take a few minutes to yourself, whether it's to enjoy a cup of tea or to read a book, so you can recharge and unwind in peace.