Re: passing it on
Re: passing it on
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Posted by Mookie
on December 29, 1999 at 00:00:12:
In Reply to: Re: passing it on posted by cal on November 10, 1999 at 01:24:54:
: : : a note to all from someone (me) who after 12 years really believed i had my herpes under control. No outbreaks in 2 years and was positive that if i was one of the ones who could pass it on while not being active i surly would have in a couple of long term relationship and other shorter ones, often without a condom ( in the long term ones)
: : : Well for the first time ever i did not tell my new partner thinking it would not be a long term thing and hey i was honestly beliving that i was safe. We had no intercourse and i was very watchfull in our other aspects.
: : : 3 days after the last time we enjoyed each other i had one small blister - gone in a week. Guess what - Ihave passed this on to her.
: : : She is rightly devastated and i maybe even more so to have caused such anguish. I may know that after time this really becomes a minor problem but how to get that through.
: : : Two things
: : : 1) Dont go through the pain I am going through - telll any partner and let them deceide.
: : : 2) Any suggestions on how to help her?
: : Dear ljt
: hey susie, how old are you by chance???
: : I know exactly how she is feeling but he professed to love me. I knew it then but I don't anymore. You have to show her that you care about her. I don't know how you should do this. You would be the worst thing that has happened in her life...but there is a way. The very fact that you wrote this message and want to know how to help her shows that you care. Don't tell her that you "understand" what she is going through. You don't. Or it wouldn't have happened. So it may be pointless for you to try to get it through to her that in time it is a minor problem. Only she can find that out. At the moment it is a major problem.
: : 1) Show her that you care about her.
: : 2) Don't tell her that you understand what she is going through.
: : Your concern and pain has made me feel better about my situation. Knowing that the other person is hurting too. Rather sadistic isn't it? But it is true.
: : Thanks for Caring and Good Luck
: : Susie
NEW MESSAGE: Good posts! It has never become a minor problem for me in 18 years.