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In Reply to: herpes-abusive relationship-help! posted by s on March 27, 2000 at 19:09:06:
: I feel the same as some of you about dating. It
: wouldn't be as big a deal for me if it wasn't contagous.
: Here's the thing: I contracted herpes in a
: relationship that was physically, emotionally, and
: sexually abusive. This man had sex with me DURING AN
: OUTBREAK. It was dark, and I didn't find out until
: after the fact. I might have gotten it from assymptomatic
: shedding, but probably not (the timing before the first
: episode matched up and I wasn't with him very
: long). I've heard one has to seperate out having it from
: how one got it, but I can't seem to. With every episode
: I have just another very special (sarcasm intended)
: reminder of him. How can I heal? Will I ever have an
: outbreak without also feeling the pain of how I got it and
: thinking of who I got it from?
Even though I am a male, I related to your story. I received my special reminder by a girl who knew she was contagious and quite on purpose transmitted it to me 15 years ago (and we had been close friends, until then). You will forget about him, not completely however. If you are like me, you will think about this person from time to time. I deal with this affliction more or less like some people deal with allergies. Once the outbreaks are under control, it will be okay.
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