Re: Hasn't Conceived & Stressed
Re: Hasn't Conceived & Stressed
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Posted by Kim Ray
on May 16, 2000 at 15:10:13:
In Reply to: Hasn't Conceived & Stressed posted by Angie on February 15, 2000 at 23:25:19:
: My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 6 months now. I am 26 he is 33.lat for my period for a couple of days. I took a home pregnancy test & it said negative. After still not getting it, I went to the doctor for a blood test/pregnancy test. I haven't gotten the results back yet, but I started my period this afternoon,after being late a whole week. The entire day today I have been upset, confused, mad, every emotion you can think of. My husband has felt the same. We were so close this time & were excited at the fact that we may have actually succeeded this time, now to find out we didn't has really been a bad blow. Especially being that I was late this long. It has hit me so hard that i don't know how to feel. It's easy to say to someone "youll just have to keep trying", but this makes me never want to try again, even though I know I will. I;m sometimes jealous when I see mother's w/ their kids or pregnant women-I know it;s wrong and I shouldn't be like this but I sometimes do. I feel hopeless and that it will never happen. I know it hasn't been that long, we;ve only been trying for 6 months, but it still hurts. The whole week I was late I thought about how fun it would be to be pregnant and have a baby, along w/ every other emotion.
: If anyone out there has had something similar happen, or has felt the same way I do, feel free to e-mail me. Right now I feel very isolated, it's weird, like everywhere I go I see kids and pregnant women. Does this sound crazy?? I look at women w/ kids and think "how did they do it?" or "how did they time it right to get pregnant, what am I doing wrong". I see parents who have kids and don't take care of them and I think "it's not fair that they have kids and i don't". I don't understand it but I'm sure eventually I will.
Hi! I certainly can understand your frustrations&aggrevations!We have had quite a history ourselves!To name a few, tried for a year,no baby,went to dr, diagnosed w. endometriosis,fibroid on uterus(small),had a lap,corrected,8 weeks post op-got preg-miscarried @ 9 weeks.Got preg again,4 mths after that preg,miscarried again.Hearet wrenching experiences!went to a specialist,harmone evaluations were done,low harmone levels(Both estrogene&progesterone.Said I had a preovulatory defect-so,had to go on clomid to raise my levels,that part has been successful, but, NO BABY!Continuing on w/clomid, trying stress reduction methods to reduce stress,maybe that will help! But,I feel that same way, when I look at women preg, or w/ kids, I am so envious!Not to metion that all three of my best friends are pregnant now, all due this May,July&September!I have been giving snd planning baby showers for them-they all encourage me to keep trying-they"ll be giving me a shower next--that hurts really bad!Not to mention, this past March 1-had to have a HSG-Hystosalpingiogram(Die in the tubes)found that,not even a year after my last surgery-my tubes were closed(they did not think they wereclosed @ that time). However,had to have them opened-clomid-AGAIN_my harmone levels are fine,i have been on Clomid-three months----AGAIN, NO BABY!We are waiting 6 mos(after the hsg aka "Tube Opening"whhich will be August 2000)> If no baby by then, we are consulting with a fertility Dr. Certainly hope that it does not come to that, the cost is outrageous, but, @ this point-will do anything for baby!We do not have that kind og $, but, will have to save up if necessary.Good Luck!