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Posted by Cinde
on July 05, 2000 at 01:19:52:
In Reply to: Am I being selfish? posted by Kalei on July 04, 2000 at 23:36:23:
: Hello All~
: I am in sort of a mental dilema. I am married (my first marriage) to my husband who has been married twice before. He has children from both previous marriages. After his second divorce he got a vasectomy. We met a few years later nad fell in love. I told him that I always wanted children and couldn't be with him if he did not want children with me. To my surprise he popped the question and promised we'd figure out a way to have children of our own. A few years went by and he said he changed his mind. I was crushed!
: I became extremely depressed and he finally agreed to have a reversal after 4 years. I immediately tried to get pregnant to no avail. He went back to the Dr. once to check his sperm count - but refused nay more visits.
: We have been married 9 years now and my time is running out to have children. My husbands attitude is that he already has children and thinks that I am being selfish for wanting to have some of my own. I love my husband dearly and we get along perfectly. He says he doesn't understand why I'm so depressed.
: Am I being selfish?
I don't think that you're being selfish at all. You made your needs clear up front, it's not fair of him to "change his mind" after all is said and done. They never understand, that's the way they go through life...it's easier for them that way!
I love my husband to death, but he can't understand what it feels like to be an infertile woman, how traumatizing that is. Luckily we have other women to talk to that DO understand. Anytime you need to talk, e-mail me. My address is
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