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Posted by Melissa on November 02, 2000 at 22:11:08:
In Reply to: frustrated posted by Vicki on October 31, 2000 at 13:26:35:
: Here is my story... I had an ecotopic pregnancy 5 years ago which resulted in the loss of one tube. Since then I have been violated in every way. I've had many different tests done, been on clomid, basil charts, etc. We finally got pregnant last July and miscarried a few weeks after finding out. The doctors suggest in-vitro because my remaining tube is partically blocked, however, not fully blocked. It is possible, however, my percentage isn't very high. My last visit to the doctor I was told that everything seemed okay and that maybe we just needed to go on a vacation. So, I purchased the fertility monitor and did a couple months to find out when I ovulate. We did then go on vacation right around the time of ovulation, and still no success. I'm to the point that I'm frustrated, don't want to attend baby showers, and have a hard time when everyone else talks nothing else but about their kids. No one wants to talk about this with me, they are tired of it and it's hard for my husband to understand my frustrations. This has affected my marriage, my friendships, etc. I guess I'm just looking for a little advice from someone who might be going through the same thing. HELP !
Hey Vickie,
I am so sorry for your loss and feeling so helpless and frustrated. I, too, went through years of infertility. We did IVF 3 times and got pregnant twice. The first attempt it didn't work. The second we lost twins at 21 weeks. The third we delivered at 31 1/2 weeks after numerous scares and hospital stays. We now have 13 month old twin boys. The light of my life. I know how hard it is for you to attend baby showers. It got to the point that I didn't attend family reunions and get togethers because everyone had kids but me. I was consumed with the thought of getting pregnant. I felt as if I was stuck in a hole and couldn't move forward with my life until I got my babies. I hated the holidays to come around. I know how you feel and it's not good. Lucky for me, my husband was compassionate to my feelings. We went through every infertility test there is at least once. We tried some things and decided our chances were the best with IVF as we are not rich people and insurance didn't help. One month of pergonal shots with artificial insem. was around $3,000 so instead of wasting $3,000 for three months with low odds (I also have endometriosis) we decided to go onto IVF with better odds of getting pregnant. I believe you still may get pregnant on your own. If you have no male factor you can still get pregnant if you have no other problems. It just may not happen as fast as you would like. You do however, have a chance of getting pregnant while you make your decision. I wish you the best of luck and my prayers are with you.
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