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Posted by Elaine
on August 18, 2000 at 22:14:04:
In Reply to: lying posted by lee on August 18, 2000 at 21:00:25:
: I think my sister is a pathological liar..no I know she is,according to the definition that I read. What I don't know is how to deal with her. She is 37 years old
: and has 2 kids that have been so confused through the years from the lies.Her lying has increased and has also gotten more unbelievable! To the point of being funny even. But she's very, very serious when she's telling a whopper!And even if she's caught "red-handed"
: she will not change her story! Needless to say she's done some serious damage to herself as well as other people.I am moving back to the same town she is living in and actually dread having to deal with her.I have been put on the spot so many times when a mutual friend or acquaintance has said "oh your sister said.....and it is something totally fabricated or exagerated. I would like to see her speak with a therapist as she has a very low opinion of herself. But as you can imagine,for me to suggest that would do more damage than good.I'm open to suggestions!It will be nearly impossible to ignore she is there(and I don't want to do that,but the lies are unbearable for me!)
I bet it started years ago as an opportunity to draw attention to her own persona. It is a very difficult to treat condition. I am not sure whether the person must understand that they have to be referred to a therapist in the first place but there is no way to stop it unless going for a heavy therapy.
I think you should try to get close to your sister first and see what is going on in her life and mind. Then you will be able to make an informed conclusion. Talk to her doctor. He / she may have something to offer. Talk to your sister; she might be able to realize that the life is passing by but it is not too late to catch up with reality.
If nothing works and you cannot change anything, I think you should be prepared to leave things alone. Let your sister live her life the way she wants to. Including lying if this makes her happy.
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