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Posted by BK
on August 23, 2000 at 00:29:40:
In Reply to: ex-husband posted by shelby on August 21, 2000 at 16:23:54:
Not in my opinion. But he may have a chemical imbalance that an anti-depressant can help, from his anger habit. It can affect the thyroid, too, which should be checked.
He has to really WANT to change for even a drug to help, or he will be dependent on the drug indefinitely, which I don't recommend due to the side-effects. He has to want to learn how to use his anger energy constructively, and then practice it. Breaking things just fuels the anger. He may like the adrenalin rush...I know it was hard for me to have a normal life because it did not feel normal after years of being enraged.
I also had trust issues to overcome.
Good for you that you stepped out of his behaviour. He alone has to take responsibility for his anger, and if he ever really owns it and wants the help to change, he then can do it...I did. There are support groups for men with anger problems, too, which may befound thru mental health clinics in communities. Ex-wives rarely are the ones to help in these situations! They usually are just someone to lean on, using them to pretend they really would change "if only..."
I am just telling it like it is from the perspective of one that has done the work and has been a facilitator of such a group.