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Posted by Elaine
on August 27, 2000 at 16:50:06:
In Reply to: Re: lying posted by friend on August 23, 2000 at 00:01:17:
: It is me again....I do speak from experience, as I have a niece that lies to herself and everyone else. She has no idea where her lies begin and end. She goes into uproars no matter where she is and wants all the rest of us "liars", (as she blames us for her attitude problems) to take responsibility for it...but she has twisted thinking.
: Still her lies are truly only a reflection on HER character, though we others have to deal with the EFFECTS of the lies.
: I personally stay away from my neice and anyone like her, and will not go to a family function she is at, UNLESS it is understood that one outburst from her and I am gone. She blasts others and tells us we are why she does it.
: Everything in her life is the fault of someone else. I put up with her until her lies spread to include me, now I won't. It is about loving her enough to treat her like she really IS, NOT WORTHY OF TRUST.
: I really wonder why you are stepping back into this, and why the whole community she lives in is not now aware of what she is like. Just wondering.
I just wanted to add that I also decided to stay away from a relative with similar problems. If someone in the family wants to try and deal with it, then it is fine by me. But as for myself, I do not want to be involved in someone else's 'twisted thinking'. Of course, all families are different but I think I am keeping peace in my own life by staying away from someone who can potentially have a negative effect on my well-being. It is selfish to a certain degree but my life is more important than sorting other person's problems.
Lucy, it looks like you have to make a decision here: either become involved in your sister's web of lies, or simply stay away from it.