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Posted by mary
on August 31, 2000 at 11:50:02:
Hi, I have an older sister who is 45 years old (I am 35). We have always had difficulty getting along, but I have always tried even though I was always the one getting blamed even if I had not instigated it. Anyway over the years my sister has become more and more self-absorbed, self-centered, etc. It is her way or the highway. If anybody has a different opinion, she gets very upset with that person. She manipulates every situation to get her way. And she constantly lies and tries to take credit for everything even though she may not have been involved in anyway. She is always verbally abusive to me and my mother more so my Mom who is sick and cannot stand up for herself. She constantly tells my Mom that she favours me over her. She picks fights with her husband and friends if they don't agree with what she says. She will only associate with people of comparable educational achievements to hers. I have come to the conclusion that my sister is very narcissitic. This has been an on-going problem for a very long time. When I try to impress upon her that her behaviour and attitude to me and Mom and others is getting way out of hand, she says she does not want to communicate with us anymore. Her husband who is a Psychiatrist (Duh!!) won't do anything about it. I have asked him to get her to counseling, but he says it's not going to help. Please help me figure out what else I can do at this point other that stopping communications with her altogether. Just last week she fought with me, when I asked her to refrain from using "I told you so" language with my Mom who is in hospital right now and has Parkinson's Disease. I was trying to tell her that Mom has enough to deal with without her throwing things in her face that she had no control over. It took me 2 hours to try and get this through her thick head and thought I had, only to find out at 7 am next morning when she gave me a rude awakening that she had not. She told me how selfish I was being, and how hurt she was at what I had said to her!!!! Help! Am I the crazy one or what????
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