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Re: What could this problem be? OCD?

Re: What could this problem be? OCD?

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Posted by LOGICAL on September 11, 2000 at 10:39:09:

In Reply to: What could this problem be? OCD? posted by Carrie on September 10, 2000 at 20:02:04:

: My husband and I have a happy marriage except for the fact we are living together as roommates rather than man and wife. The problem is he is impotent most of the time, has Viagra but rarely takes it, has no desire to have a normal sexual relationship with me. The only time we have sex is when I initiate it. If I attempt to discuss it with him he gets very defensive and angry. I suspect he masturbates often. For several months I have noticed whenever he is sitting in a chair,or driving, he keeps his hands lying on his penis. Or else he is crossing and uncrossing his legs as if he's manipulating his penis. If I mention it to him he becomes angry, makes excuses, and says I am just looking for something. This is not the case at all. I'm very concerned and confused as to why a man would not want an intimate relationship with a loving, faithful wife who has a healthy sexual appetite and refuse to discuss the matter. My question is, has anyone ever heard of a man having some sort of obsessive-compulsion disorder about his penis? ANY input will be sincerely appreciated.


THIS DOES NOT APPEAR TO BE A CASE OF OCD. MORE THAN LIKELY YOUR HUSBAND IS EMBARRASSED ABOUT HIS INABILITY TO ACHIEVE OR MAINTAIN AN ADEQUATE ERECTION. ALTHOUGH IT MAY SEEM LIKE YOUR HUSBAND IS OBSESSED WITH MASTURBATION, HE IS PROBABLY OVERLY CONCERNED WITH HIS IMPOTENCE AND THEREFORE, CONSTANTLY CHECKING IN HOPE THAT THE PROBLEM IS GONE OR TRYING TO RECTIFY IT.

YOU MAY WANT TO TRY SLIGHT LESS OVERT SEXUAL BEHAVIOR SUCH AS CUDDLING, LAYING YOUR HEAD ON HIS SHOULDER WHILE HEíS WATCHING TV, A BACK RUB, OR ANY OTHER AFFECTIONATE BEHAVIOR THAT IS NOT DIRECTLY RELATED TO SEX.

THE IDEA IS TO TAKE THE PRESSURE TO PERFORM OFF OF HIM. DONíT MAKE THE GOAL OF THE AFFECTION SEX. USE THESE TECHNIQUE IN BED AS WELL. MASSAGE AND BATH EACH OTHER. REMEMBER THE GOAL IS NOT TO ENGAGE IN INTERCOURSE AT THIS TIME. YOU WANT YOUR HUSBAND TO FEEL UNPRESERVED. SOON HIS ERECTIONS WILL RETURN ON THEIR OWN. HOWEVER, IF THEY DO NOT THEN CONSULT YOUR DOCTOR. PLEASE LET ME KNOW HOW THINGS PROGRESS. (THE MALE PERSPECTIVE)


-- LOGICAL




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