Re: need companionship
Re: need companionship
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Posted by ila
on March 07, 2000 at 00:10:48:
In Reply to: Re: need companionship posted by John Honsaker on March 04, 2000 at 06:50:39:
Hello there. Good to see a new name on the board. I suppose it's bad enough being single, being single and in chronic pain must be a real downer. Don't think that "healthy" people don't understand though. A lot do, especially if they've had an injury of sorts. I just think that for a lot of them, as with childless couples, they don't like to talk about "it" all the time. I think it makes them uncomfortable, as if your misery will rub off or something. Regardless of this, they still enjoy an intelligent conversation. How confined are you? What are your interests? Do you get out much? Are you working at all?? If not, there are volunteer organisations everywhere looking for "workers" to do any one of a number of jobs. Get interested in "something". You go downhill too fast if you don't. We're hurt, nothings going to change that. What we do afterwards is up to us. I know its hard and pain is bad, but it's not going to go away. I generally have a real big whinge on line (this board). I have to watch what I say though. Unfortunately I must have sounded suicidal in one. Everyone was telling me to hang in there. I felt really bad after that, although it was good to know that people cared. Needed to say that I wasn't on that kind of a trip. Regardless, those are the kind of people we have on this board. Great isn't it. So this board is good and you found it, now all you have to do is go find something else to occupy your mind that makes you happy. Sounds hard but it's not - unless you're bound to your bed. If you are, I don't know what you can do. Maybe someone else could help. Look forward to hearing from you in the future. :
: Hi, I am very lonely adult suffering from chronic pain. All heathly people do not understand what this is like. Need a freind to speak with, I feel so isolated. Is it possible to ever again find freindship and love? Only reply if you really care about people who are not as fotunate as others. Thank you.
: Hi Alone
: You are at the right place for friendship, but love?? I believe that love only comes around when you arenít looking for it. There may be love here for you, there are many others here that understand what you are going through, but donít cut yourself short. You are not Ďdamaged goodsí. You do not have to limit your search to other chronic pain people.
: The best thing a person can do if looking for someone is to get out of the house and be active. Cultivating yourself with something you enjoy. Itís been said that nothing is sexier than a large smile. The saying that Ďthe idle mind is the devils workshopí is so very true for everyone, but even more true for us chronic painers because of the depression that comes with the constant pain. Get active. You donít mention anything about your condition, can you get out to exercise? Swimming at the YMCA is great. If you canít get out, do you interact with others on-line? I have found a place on-line where you play games with otherís around the world. Itís at www.won.net I enjoy spades, maybe you can find some game there you enjoy. I have met many people there.
: You will find many friends here, you never know what will happen.
: Good luck and God bless