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Re: change his mind

Re: change his mind

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Posted by :0) on August 29, 2000 at 14:19:07:

In Reply to: change his mind posted by Riley on August 29, 2000 at 10:10:06:

Well, first off have a plan to support the baby and do whatever you need to do to keep your life on track (as much as you can with a baby anyway). It won't seem to bad to her if you've got the money issues and everything atleast partialy figured out before you talk to her. If you go to her and you have no idea how your going to support the baby, work, go to school or whatever it's going to look really bad. As far as how you tell her thats up to you, in a letter (a little impersonal, but if you've got the type of mother who reacts very strongly it may be a good idea, she'll have time to cool down before you talk to her), take her out to lunch or supper, or maybe go on a walk and tell her, or just sit down with her at home and tell her.
As far as the bf is concerned you can't make him do anything. Keep him informed of everything, include him in everything, Ask him to come with you to doctors appointments, the ultrasound things like that. A lot of guys warm up to the idea a lot better once they see the ultrasound, or hear their baby's heartbeat. Also, talk to him about what you guys are going to do to support the baby, and things like that, he could just be scared that he won't be able to support it and be a good father, take parenting classes together, keep him invovled as much as he'll allow himself to be. Obviously he'll only do what he wants to do, you cannot force him, but just make sure the door is always open. Give him time and i'm sure he'll come around.


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