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Re: I don't know what to do!!!

Re: I don't know what to do!!!

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Posted by Elaine on September 09, 2000 at 21:07:14:

In Reply to: I don't know what to do!!! posted by Amy on September 02, 2000 at 15:41:29:

: I had my last period the first week of August. Before I had my period, I was having the regular pre-menstrual symptoms, but they seemed to be worse this time. My breasts were more tender than normal and my cramps were even worse also. I had a normal period, lasted the normal time I have them. And then about 1 week after my period my stomach started to hurt really bad, like I had pulled a muscle in my stomach. And then for a few days I was getting pains in my right side, like a pain in my appendix. My breasts started to become tender again, but are starting to not hurt so much. There is no swelling or anything. Now my stomach muscles are hurting, like I had been doing sit ups for a long time. My period was suppose to start this week, but hasn't yet. I took a pregnancy test 2 days ago and the results were positive. I am so scared now. I need to go see a doctor, but I am too scared to tell my parents. I don't know how to tell them. What am I going to do?? I am scared of their reaction!!!


Amy, how old are you? Are you planning to go ahead with your pregnancy? Are you confused as to what you want right now? I think the best solution would be to talk to someone you really trust, be it your aunt, or your grandmother, or a close relative. But it must be someone you believe would be on your side when you tell your parents. Of course, they will be surprised a lot, not matter whether they are the 'angry' types or the strict ones. Unless they do not care for you, they will be shocked. Please do not expect any other reaction and it is psychologically very difficult to face the music on your own. That is why you must have someone on your side, all the way. It could be even your family doctor, or a nurse who would sympathize with you. Think about people you can talk to right now.
Secondly, think about whether you want to go ahead with the baby or maybe you want your baby to be adopted or you'd rather have an abortion. You do not have to make a decision right now but thinking about it and clarifying a thing or two in your mind. This will help you talk to your parents. When you talk to them, you may feel pressurised to take one decision or another, so you must give it some thinking beforehand. Unless you are not a 100% sure you want to have an abortion, think about ALL other possibilities. If you do decide on abortion, I am not sure about the laws in your state / country, but I had an abortion at the age of 19 and I never told my parents because I never wanted them to pressurise me one way or another. I went through the whole thing on my own but I was a 100% per cent sure about it. If you are younger than 18, you will definitely have to make your parents aware of your situation.
I hope everything works out well for you, whatever option you choose.


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