Re: How do I get rid of it without aborrtion
Re: How do I get rid of it without aborrtion
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Posted by Sandie
on September 21, 2000 at 13:07:36:
In Reply to: Re: How do I get rid of it without aborrtion posted by Kathy on September 21, 2000 at 11:30:05:
: : I think im pregnant im 12 and my stomach has been streached and dont know what to to do I cant talk to anyone!I threw up one morning.Ive even considered punching myself in the stomach!How can I get rid of it?
: : Besides expensive abortion?
: WHAT??? You are "12" and you think you are pregnant? First of all, I am truely against abortion but I strongly believe that if that is your choice, you need to have a professional do it. However, you absolutely need to tell an adult before you do anything at all. If you are big enough to be having sex, you need to be big enough to tell your parents. Sex is not a joke and furthermore ABORTION is definately not a method of birth control. If you cannot tell your parents, tell a teacher or your school counselor. They can help you. This is a very serious issue. You do have other options you know. You do not have to "kill" a baby. You can give it up for adoption. The baby did not ask to be concieved. You made that decision when you had unprotected sex. That was your mistake. Why should "your baby" have to pay for it with his or her life. That is not fair. I have two children and they are the most precious gifts that you can ever have. I could not even bare the thought of ever losing them let alone taking their life. You made a mistake, now correct it. Do the right thing and tell and adult. It is not the end of the world. Everyone makes mistakes, don't make an even bigger one. The first thing you need to do is find out if you are pregnant. The fact that your threw up one morning does not mean that you are pregnant. Look, go to an adult. Tell them that you have made a big mistake and you need help. Say that you want to be responsible for your actions and you need some assistance. Ask them to help you tell your parents. (Their is no way around this sweetie you are a minor.)If you are afraid of your parents reaction and/or you think your parents are going to kill you, ask the adult to help you by being present. This situation is definately going to hurt and disapoint your parents as well as make them really angry but come on can you blame them? Now, if the situation gets out of control and your life is in danger by all means call the police. You need to do this right away. Be a big girl. I am not your mommy but it saddens me to know that you are having sex at such an early age. I am 25 years old. I started having sex at "17" now that I am older, I know I should have waited. Trust me, at your age you cannot even begin to know what sex is. Honestly, you can be an expert as far as the physical part but you have no idea when it comes to the emotional part. This is the real reason why people have sex. That is what really counts. When you are older trust me you will agree. When I was young and foolish I too thought I knew everything there was to know but to my surprise I did not know the half of it. Sex is a very intimate part of a marriage. This is a very special to become one with someone and "make love" to them. Even some adults don't know this. This is something you learn when you truely find the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with them. Your body is a very precious thing. You need to love yourself and respect yourself. I know that when you are young you think adults tell you all this stuff and it is just a bunch of "BS". Trust me it is not. Remember we were all your age at one time or another. We had the same thoughts, went through the same things and if we tell you these things it is because we have learned from our mistakes as well as others mistakes and we want you to be better than us and not make the same mistakes. You are only "12". Be a little girl. You have your whole life ahead of you to be an adult. It is not all it is cracked up to be. Enjoy your childhood while you still have it. You can never re-live those times. Make the best of it now.
: I hope my advice helps you.
: Good luck,
First of Kathy very well said. When I read this post I was also very disturbed.I totally agree with everything you said. I have a friend who's little sister has recently gone through this, and I just can't believe the young age that kids are having sex at these days. However I do want to add this little bit of information. Look in your phone book and call a planned parenthood or a womans center. It will be totally confidential and they will HELP YOU to find a way to tell your parents, and to figure out what is the best option for you. Most of these places will even do a free confidential pregnancy test without telling your parents. Your just a little girl, but now you are going to have to act responsibly. And PLEASE do not so something as irresonsible, as punching yourself in the stomach. If you are pregnant there are many options available to you such as adoption, all punching yourself in the stomach is going to do is hurt yourself and possibly injure the baby inside you. How would you feel giving birth to a child that is physically or mentally impaired because of your actions? You have made huge mistake which you are going to have to live with the rest of your life. And no matter what you do, you have NO idea how much you decision is going to affect you as you get older. Please get help right away.
If you need someone to talk to please feel free to email me at any time. Your post has really disturbed me, and I would like to help if I can.