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Posted by friend on September 26, 2000 at 01:41:42:

In Reply to: PLEASE READ...Im 19 and want a baby more than anything posted by Sarah on September 25, 2000 at 00:41:44:

Dear Sarah,
Anyone desiring to mother a child needs to be ready to sacrifice her own feelings for the child's best interest and welfare.
Ask yourself this:
Do you want a child to fulfill your own desire to mother?
Would one parent be the desire of the innocent child?
How would a child feel having no father?

What will happen if you later decide mothering is not all that "fulfilling", and want to pursue some other dream?
Children are not pets to get when one feels like it, and are not for the purpose of making others feel good. They are people with their own needs and desires.

I had a child out of wedlock and she had a child out of wedlock. We all suffer for it. In both cases the father did not wish to participate, and it has caused much confusion about relationships for both as well as a great deal of unavoidable pain. My grandson plays with kids with both parents and longs for a "daddy", no matter how much we love him or try to fill in the gaps for him. A mom just is not a dad!

If you really love children, you will wait until you find a man worthy and capable of parenting a child and making a commitment to you in marriage and in rearing children.
Children want, deserve, and need both a mommy and a daddy, and new psychological studies show this is true.
Do I think having a child by your self is selfish? YES. others may disagree, but I live with the truth.


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