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Posted by Teresa
on October 12, 2000 at 02:31:47:
In Reply to: Need some advice posted by Michelle on October 11, 2000 at 10:18:23:
I am so relieved to see that you are resolved not to have the abortion. But maybe if you start to doubt, this post will encourage you to do the right thing.
Please, I beg you do not have an abortion. It is something your will regret forever. It is unchangeable. Your h. can leave and come back. Death is forever. You have options once the baby is born. Adoption is one. Obviously, keeping the baby is another. If your have an abortion there will be something between you and your husband that your marriage probably will not survive and he will be gone anyway. Maybe your h. will see the baby and his heart will change. If he leaves then he will have to answer for that when he faces God.
If you allow him to influence you to do something horrible to a child that is totally dependent on you for life, you will have to answer for that.
Give him some time to get used to the idea. Maybe his reactions were in anger or fear.
Do you fear him? Is he likely to do something to hurt you or your other child? If so you have a responsibility to get to a safe place!!!! I am not saying that you should divorce him.
If you do not feel compelled to leave then I have another suggestion. This sounds strange but don't try to talk to him about it anymore. Stop trying to convice him. If he askes you then with all the love you can muster tell him that you love him and you love this baby that the two of you made together and you can not and will not abort the baby. If he wants to leave then you are sorry and do not want him to but he is free to come home anytime he changes his mind. Maybe you know the story about the prodigal son that Jesus told in Luke 15:11-32. This advice is based on 1Peter 3:1-17 in the Bible. It says that a wife who has a husband that is disobedient to the word of God should win him over without a word.
It also says that sometimes we must suffer for good deeds and that is better than suffering for evil deeds. First Corinthians 13 says love endures all things and never fails. If you unconditionally show your husband love, in all situations and especially when he doesn't deserve it he will change. Maybe if I knew some of his objections to the pregnancy I could help more with specific responses. I hope I didn't offend or make things confusing. It is not my intent to "preach" to anyone who doesn't want to hear about the Bible. What most people are trying out there isn't working. We should turn to God's instruction book to find out how we are to do things and then give it a try! We might find out that God knows a thing or two.:-)
I will be praying for you.If you would like to e-mail me : firstname.lastname@example.org God bless you. Teresa
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