ALL BY MYSELF 2
ALL BY MYSELF 2
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Posted by HEATHER
on December 14, 2000 at 23:40:45:
In Reply to: Re: ALL BY MYSELF posted by He's responsible on December 14, 2000 at 17:17:14:
: I KNOW I MADE IT SOUND LIKE I AM 14 YEARS OLD AND FOOLISHLY WENT INTO THIS WITH MY EYES CLOSED. I FELL IN LOVE WITH A LOSER AND AS IT SOMETIMES HAPPENS I GOT PREGNANT COMPLETELY UNPLANNED I WAS USING PROTECTION AND I AM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE ABLE TO HAVE CHLIDREN. SO THIS WAS A HUGE SHOCK. I WILL BE 25 A COUPLE WEEKS AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AND WILL GRAD. 2 SEMESTERS LATER. I AM NOT A FOOLISH TEENAGER I JUST HAVE NEVER BEEN IN THIS SITUATIN BEFORE AND FEEL LIKE A FISH OUT OF WATER. I AM GRATEFUL FOR THE ADVICE I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU GUYS KNOW THAT I DO HAVE A GOOD HEAD ON MY SHOLDERS. I WILL HANDLE THIS SITUATION THE WAY IT NEEDS TO BE I AM JUST LOOKING FOR THAT WAY.
: I AM 8 WEEKS PREGNANT AND THE FATHER WHO LOVES ME DEARLY, HE SAYS, WANT'S NOTHING DO WITH THE BABY. HE WANTS ME TO HAVE AND ABORTION I WON'T SO NEEDLESS TO SAY WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER. MY QUESTION IS THIS I AM NOT AFRAID OF RAISING THIS BABY BY MYSELF, WELL NOT TOO AFRAID, SHOULD I ASK HIM TO HELP ME PAY FOR DOCTORS AND STUFF. IF HE DOESN'T EVEN WANT ME TO KEEP THE BABY THEN HOW DO I SAY TO HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO HELP ME FINANCIALLY LIKE EVERY ONE SAYS I SHOULD? DO I HAVE THAT RIGHT AND HOW DO I GO ABOUT THIS? THANKS ANY ADVISE IS NEEDED VERY BADLY.
: Ok first off, how old are you? this is something that you should both know that if he has the ability to lay down and make this baby, he has the responsibility to stand up and support this baby. Yeah his choice is important too if he chooses not to raise that baby and he did let you know that but he still has the responsibility to pay for that baby whether he wants it or not. he should be paying child support for the rest of the child's childhood and he knew the risks before he had sex with you. there is no 100% way of not getting pregnant unless u don't have sex. so he is as much responsible for this baby as you are. so if i were you i would make him pay his share of the doctor's bills and anything else and if he doesnt pay anything take him to court and get something down so he has an amount that he has to pay. its bad enough that this child will grow up without his father in his life he should at least have the money to help him live a decent life with the things that he needs and is entitled to.