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Posted by Janine
on December 12, 1999 at 21:28:18:
In Reply to: stroke posted by jan on December 06, 1999 at 23:12:55:
: My husband had a stroke 3 months ago which affected his left side - arm and leg. He is still in rehab, cannot walk alone or sit alone on the edge of a bed. has to have someone transfer him. Right now he seems to cry a lot and ofcourse wants to come home. What I would like to know is what is your experience with the reaction of a stroke victim to visitors around the holidays. I have been told that too much commotion may confuse him and cause him to "shut down", thus slowing his recovery. Do you agree with this? Our daughter wants to visit with her family and I don't know how to respond.
Hi Jan, Family support is Very important for the stroke pt. Your daughter should be encouraged to visit. A lot of people at one time can be overwhelming, so 1 or 2 people at a time for short periods would be ideal.
What your husband is experiencing with the crying is lability. Sometimes the stroke pt is unable to control the emotions or expresses inappropriate ones. Remember, the brain is healing and it may take some time for it to get straightened out. It can be very frustrating to know that you know how to do things and suddenly be unable to do them. Just as babies cry when they are frustrated, so may a stroke pt. I cried to when I found out that I wasn't going home but to a rehab center. Just try to be as supportive as possible. Depression is common after a stroke, so you should watch for signs of it if his emotional behavior worsens. By the way, I am a 25 year stroke survivor.