Re: Does anyone work?
Re: Does anyone work?
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Posted by Bren
on June 26, 2000 at 15:43:45:
In Reply to: Re: Does anyone work? posted by Sam Morrow on June 14, 2000 at 16:37:32:
: : I am just wondering if anyone works, because I can't now. If it weren't for my parents and SSI, I don't know how I would be able to buy stuff. I probably won't be able to work for a long time, because I work with bad school children (and I don't think I can handle that now). But, since my job let me go (an easy way to say they fired me) maybe the school district will place me at another school. I can't wait until I will be able to work again (except for getting up really early in the morning). Even if I could work, I don't know how I would get there (I am not supposed to drive).
: Yes, I was going by the alias Jack for one of my posts. I had an embarrasing ?. After my stroke, I was scared to death, my stroke happened in July, and every hospital I went to it seemed everyone was on vacation. I didn't have the regular social worker to help me with social security. I was denied social security. I was an associate pastor at a church, and my boss, (the pastor)came to my house to tell me that the church had to move on so basically I was let go. I was still in the fog of the stroke, and looking back I would have been angrier now then I was at the time, I just said okay. I had no income a house payment, a car payment, 2 small children and a wife that luckily works full time. Still not enough income to maintain our standard of living. I had to do something. I applied for Social Security thinking if that kicked in we wouldn't lose the house, cars, or starve to death. My claim was denied. Now what? I knew I'd have to get some kind of job, I worked with kids also as a youth pastor and coach before the stroke. I could hardly walk let alone I couldn't move my right arm or fingers. I applied for a substitute teaching license, I was a bit apprehensive as to how kids would react to my handicaps. I subbed for 4th and 5th graders first, they were very curious, so I set some time aside and told them my stroke story. I told them to lay on their back and try to stand up only using the right side of your body. They all tried, none of them could do it. They loved it. I tried the same things with kindergarten through middle school with the same results. So for the 1999-2000 school year I subbed and continued coaching high school basketball and track. My basketball team went 18-3 and won the league championship, and the track team won a state championship so that helped quite a bit, to make stroke recovery go faster. Now it is summer and I'm bored. My days consist of self therapy at the gym, and watching my kids. I am looking for full time work again. I'm not physically healthy, but mentally and emotionally I'm ready for full time work. I have to there are no other alternatives.
I'm not sure if I should be responding to these messages since it was my Mom that had the stroke and not me but since she's been with me for 7 months now I've learned an awful lot. She has been off work for 20 years (lifetime legal secretary) because she has MS. She had accepted the fact that she couldn't work anymore. Now since the stroke she is constantly telling me she needs to get a job. I don't know if it's because she's feeling worthless and depressed or if it is some other aspect of the stroke. She can't drive and the stroke has affected her mentally more than physically but she seems bent on going back to work. Hopefully this will diminish with time.