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Re: How Do I Cope? Please Help.

Re: How Do I Cope? Please Help.

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Posted by larry coldiron on July 24, 2000 at 10:40:16:

In Reply to: How Do I Cope? Please Help. posted by venting on July 24, 2000 at 02:25:52:

: My loved one is currently in the ISU. Suffered a massive stroke. I'm having a serious problem with a couple of the nurses and particular family members.

: It seems as though nothing is sacred. Meaning even when my loved one is trying to have a bowel movement, the room is full of people. I'm so incredibly SICK of the lack of privacy.

: I understand the sponge baths, the clean-up and so forth but can't he have a moment of peace when trying to go to the bathroom.

: Tonight I told the nurse several times that I would let her know when he was finished. That didn't stop her from checking in every minute, which made him uncomfortable and therefore did not go.

: It got to the point of her threatening me, saying that, "technically visiting hours are over and she can make me leave if she wants to".

: How do I deal with this and stay sane? (He is not to point yet of speaking for himself.)

: All I want is a quick recovery. Though it looks like I'm going to be dealing with this situation for at least another 2 weeks.

: Any suggestions?

: I've reached the point where I don't even want to visit. It's breaking my heart. What happened to a little decency and respect.

hello venting,
I myself suffered a massive stroke almost 8 yeaes ago.and yes the nurses will monitor almost his every move.
I hate to be the one to break it to you but.... there are no quick fixes after stroke. and again if you have the misconception that you've only got to deal with this another two weeks you're going to be let down again this is something you must deal with for the rest of your loved ones life and yours sure things will get better but will never be the same as before.while I know nothing about his situation I remember mine perfectly.it was over 2 years after my stroke before I was capable of taking care of my own hygiene after a bowel movement. that itself is embarassing.still today almost 8 years later I'm not able to take a shower completely by myself my wife has just now finished helping me with that. if there is anything i'm able to help you with feel free to email me and ask anything that you may need,
I put in my address at the top of this but will add it here just in case it doesn't show there it's coldiron@delanet.com so feel free to use it.i'm not a dictor but have seen enough that i could almost pass the exam and i've been through everything he has and will continue to go through including a coma if that is his condition. i look forward to hearing from you.Larry Coldiron


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