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scotianprincess Junior Member  Posts: 9 |
posted 03-28-2003 09:45 AM
  
Just wondering how you knew you were ready to conceive... very odd question I know.... I am not married, have no children, have been with my b-f for over a year but were best pals for 5 years first... Just wonderin'.... IP: Logged |
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friendlyrobyn Senior Veteran  Posts: 600 |
posted 03-28-2003 09:55 AM
Im not sure but my husband says "Im still not sure were ready for a baby but I know I WANT one!" I second that motion. I know that dh and I have promised to love eachother til death and I dont take that lightly. When we met 6 years ago we always knew we wanted babies with eachother. (i knew i didnt want babies from previous boyfriends)We want a large family so after putting it off for a couple years I decided(dh was ready for a while) lets get started. Its a good thing we started because it took us 11 months to concieve!! Good luck to you and all of your choices! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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scotianprincess Junior Member Posts: 9 |
posted 03-28-2003 10:03 AM
Thanks so much for your good wishes!!! I understand what you mean about "knowing" that you want to have a family with that certain someone... I still have a few goals I wish to accomplish before I will be ready for a child, but the baby bug has certainly bitten!!!!! The "light" at the end!!!! IP: Logged |
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kmc235 Senior Member Posts: 175 |
posted 03-28-2003 10:53 AM
I wish I had the baby bug. DH and I knew we wanted a family, but I've never had that maternal yearning so many women speak about. And there was just so much to do before we committed to children (travel, grad school, careers). So we decide to start trying when I was 33 so I could maybe have my first by 35. Our decision was all about my biological clock. ~~~ IP: Logged |
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friendlyrobyn Senior Veteran Posts: 600 |
posted 03-28-2003 10:59 AM
scotianprincess, ive been trying to lose my exrta weight and finish school for years! I take 1 or 2 classes each semester for the past 10 years. Im almost done. I cant even count how many times ive lost and gained over 50 lbs... Good luck to you! Are you TTC? ------------------ IP: Logged |
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siren24 Senior Member Posts: 206 |
posted 03-28-2003 11:03 AM
Hi! I'm in the same situation as you (except married, and I have only been married since Sept.) I'm 22, still in college (hubby's graduated) and we just sort of "jumped in." I don't think you're ever really "ready" for your first baby. I got pregnant the first cycle after the wedding, we had no insurance, we rent, and we live in an area where the economy is exceptionally terrible. My DH had a great job at the time, but has since been victim to massive layoffs affecting the entire area. We had to get state insurance to cover the baby, and DH is joining the airforce. I have no idea what the future holds for us, and it would have been much smarter if we had waited, but neither of us have any regrets, and can't wait for the baby to get here. Now that I can see and feel him move, I couldn't imagine not bringing him into existance. IP: Logged |
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scotianprincess Junior Member Posts: 9 |
posted 03-28-2003 12:05 PM
Hey!
I have a decent job now as a receptionist, but by no means is this what I had hoped for as a career... ROBYN...nope, not TTC, although recently I suspected I may be pregnant...a nurse suspected as well, took a test last night, came out -, so that is good... but of course if I had have been +, well, not to say that would have been bad, b/c how can a baby be BAD news, it would just not have been at the "right time"... IP: Logged |
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kristen_channel Veteran Posts: 391 |
posted 03-28-2003 01:02 PM
I agree with some of the other posters, I don't think anyone is ever 100% ready for a baby! My mother told me, "if you wait until you're absolutely, positively 100% ready to have a baby, you will never do it!" DH and I had only begun talking about starting a family *maybe* in the next year - I hadn't even stopped using the Pill yet - when I became pregnant. We were thrilled, and get more excited as each week passes. The excitement and anticipation makes us FEEL like we're completely ready for this baby, but I know deep down that it's probably a false sense of security that keeps expectant parents from freaking out and worrying about the future! Take care! ------------------ Proud to be a Navy wife! Married to my wonderful nuclear submariner since April 2001. IP: Logged |
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Momofa4yrold Veteran Posts: 436 |
posted 03-28-2003 01:33 PM
WOW Sirene are you in West Virginia? It sounds like the economy here. We just got word that the company I am working for is being sold. So here I am one week away from being 6 months pregnant, and I might lose my job and my insurance all before the baby is born. So, see scotianprincess, even when you think you have all of your ducks in a row and are ready to have a baby anything can happen. I am not worried. I am not going to let myself worry because I am fully trusting in God. I will be where ever God wants me to be. I am glad you want to get your degree before starting a family. That is my only regret. I was studing to be an Elementary Teacher and quit after my first year to get married. I want to go back so bad. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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coppertop Veteran Posts: 319 |
posted 03-28-2003 01:50 PM
I realized I was ready for a baby when my period started bringing different emotions with it. For the first year and a half of marriage, every time af came I felt kind of relieved like "one less thing to worry about this month". Than I started kind of hoping af wouldn't show up, even though we weren't ttc. Than after a few months we actually started ttc. Anway, that how how I realized I was ready. My dh probably would of never felt "100% ready", but soon after our first son was born he told me we should of had a baby a long time ago! IP: Logged |
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scotianprincess Junior Member Posts: 9 |
posted 03-28-2003 02:34 PM
Hi! Kristen - your mom sounds like a smart gal!! Never thought of it like that, I guess it is true, who IS ever READY for motherhood...It would be damn scary, yet so joyous at the same time!!! Momofa4yearold - I agree with your statement about being where god wants us to be....that is a very positive way of thinking!!!! Yes, one thing my mom always taught me was to go after your dreams first, as she also married before finishing school, and she regrets it to this DAY....I don't want to feel like that! Coppertop - I do the "thank god" thing when my AF pays a visit...when I start to become miffed about it, that would be a very good sign that the time has come!! Thank you all for your thoughts!!!!!! IP: Logged |
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babygrant Senior Member Posts: 111 |
posted 03-28-2003 02:37 PM
Maybe I'm just silly but my dh and I really both feel that we are 100% ready for a baby. We had been talking about having babies even before we were engaged. There was such a strong connection between the two of us that we knew this was "the one". We are enjoying every moment of pregnancy and heck for that matter, we are enjoying every moment of life. I totally agree with coppertop though. When your not ready for baby you kind of get nervous if AF is a few days late, but when your ready you get excited that AF is late, and you hope she doesn't show up. I think it's just a feeling you get and you know it's time for babies to be made. Angela IP: Logged |
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late bloomer Veteran Posts: 265 |
posted 03-28-2003 03:20 PM
What a great question and topic to bring up! I'm 42 and ttc (late bloomer) and through the years I couldn't see myself as a mother. Whenever I feared being prego-- begging God for AF would arrive, I always felt so relieved. Heck, how could I be a mother, I can barely pack a lunch every day  I have to say it was while my DH and I were courtshipping...just married in 2001, and we attended Engaged Encounter Weekend for marriage prep. It was then when I discovered that my hubby-to-be TRULY wanted to have children. I started to realize having children isn't just a motherly desire its a fatherly desire too! I am so happily married today and I want so much to have his child. And as my fellow ttc'ers know I'll be a great Mommy Now, if we could just catch the egg....our time has come!Great question, scotianprincess. And I'll quote my Doc "baby's aren't planned, they just happen!" [This message has been edited by late bloomer (edited 03-28-2003).] IP: Logged |
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