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ellekat19
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posted 02-28-2003 12:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellekat19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just want to say that it's not true that teens dohn't know what love is. I met the love of my life at 15. I am now 23 and we have been married for going on 5 years and have a beautiful little 1 year old boy together. I wouldn't change anything for the world. I didn't miss out on a thing. I have a great husband/father, and a son who I love more than life itself. Teen love can work, if you are a mature enough person to handle it.

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posted 02-28-2003 02:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rebecarooni     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Our society in general is obsessed with sex, whether it is teen sex, gay sex , heterosex or mutant ninja sex. Everywhere we look sex is on display to sell something, to grab our attention toshock us. It really is no wonder that we are all (teens and adults alike) preoccupied with sex. That said, in my humble opinion, kids are starting too young. Young teenagers should be thinking of adventures far more exciting than doing the nasty. I remeber at 15 dreaming of travelling the world and writing a book and seeing everything and doing everything and then, maybe finding someone to settle down with and lov. And I look back at how "IN LOVE" I was with a guy in high school and it doesn't compare to how I feel now, 12 years later. Granted, my feelings were intense but they were also selfcentered. Unlike being in a mature relationship where my partner's wellbeing is as vital to me as my own. It infuriates me to see television shows portraying children as young as 8 or 9 having "boyfriends" or "girlfriends". I have a six year old and I have already started the TALKS with him. Parents need to be frank with their children, society as a whole needs to have better ethics and morals and values and this is not said in a religious context. Kids need to be taught that their actions have ramifications and a lot of adults need to be reminded of that. For myself, I am as open with my son as I can be, considering he is six. And to the ladies who had their kids while teenagers, sure you love your kids and take good care of them but, experience is the best teacher out there and being in the position to raise a child so young, you haven't really had a chance to experience much have you? I am glad that I waited as long as I did. I was able to travel around the US and Europe, I was able to go and explore the world and see that there is so much more out there than my tiny home town. And as much as I love my son, sometimes I wish he had been born when I was 26 instead of 23 because there is so much more I would have done.

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posted 03-09-2003 07:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kristie Alsteen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ok, I know this started off as teens not being ready to have sex because of the risk of being a parent, but from reading the posts it seems to me this discussion is leading in the same direction as my thought, so I will share them.

There are married couples living in low income housing systems, neither person working, collecting food stamps, and all the other benifits their state allows. In Wisconsin, you do not have to have a job if there is a child under the age of 5 living in the house, so as long as you have a baby every 4 years you don't have to work, the taxpayer will pay for you to to live. Most of these people have cable tv, internet services, and nice cars more then what I have. Are these people any more ready to have sex then a teenager? Personally I think there should be some kind of law to stop these people from having more kids. Maybe if one of the adults in the house isn't working then they get kicked off of all the funding, or at least get kicked off if no one is working and have more kids.

If you tell someone not to do something many times they do it because they were told not to. If you teach a kid not to have sex, and then they do decide to anyway do you thnk they are going to come to you beforehand and say "ya know I decided even tho you told me not to have sex I want to try it anyway, so do you think I could get a condom?" My son is only 3 right now, so we have some years yet before these talk are to come, but when they do I am going to stress to him why it is a good idea to wait, but also that if he decides not to then he needs to at least be safe about it and if he needs me to help him make sure he is safe I will. I would rather buy him condoms then to have him catch something or have him be a father before he is finished with school.

My last point is I see some comments reguarding to teens knowing what love is. I don't think it is about knowing what love is as much as having strong feeling for another person. People mature and so does love. It has a different meaning and depth when your older, but that isn't to say that teens don't love too. I think some teens are just able to love more then others, depending on how they were loved at home.

Maybe this makes sense to someone else too. I don't post much because I have ADD and it is hard for me to express what's in my head in a way that other people understand.

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posted 03-09-2003 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wrin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think if we start giving teenagers some credit and quit treating them like idiots, they'll act less like idiots.

It's difficult to take yourself seriously as a mature adult and do mature things when the only thing you've been told throughout your teenagedhood is that teenagers are stupid, naive, and ignorant.

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posted 03-09-2003 11:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for misskaty7443     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Word to wrin, you actually get me. Teenagers only try and strive to be adults, and if there parents, or the "true adults" as all the adults excuse themselves as in a arguement

Sex is a mature thing, not a adult thing. The only thing that I will agree to is the financial burdub of pregnancy, but hey there are plenty of unwanted adult parents out there, and no one points a finger at them.

Marriage= a little peice of paper that the government gets to feel more special controlling your life.

Sex= a act of enjoyment, which should not be taken lightly, but should always be fun

This arguement= good opinions but my mothers philosophy toward raising teens,"You can tell them as many times as you want, that they can't do it, but if they want to do it, you can't stop them." That is why I get along so well with my mother on the sex topic, I let her in on my actions, and in return I get trust to do what I want, to certian boundries. Might as well make sure they don't get AIDS or pregnant.

People ANY STD IS WORSE THAN PREGNANCY, DOES EVERYONE FORGET THAT. PROTECT YOUR KIDS, YOU MIGHT REGRET IT. If they are going to do it, give them support.


Again I aplaud wrin on your comment.

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Oops that was me above, my friend was on my comp and I forgot to change my name....that was my post ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

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posted 03-10-2003 09:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 2+2=5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I really can't see the problem.

There no such thing as an idel age to start having sex.
Some people start when their 12,some people start when 37,there is no idel age to start having sex.

If some 14 want to have sex,who is anyone to tell them there wrong??!!!


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posted 03-10-2003 01:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for qtpie2003     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree with your comment about teens and love Kristie. I think that certain teens are able to love on such a level because of how they were loved at home. I believe how a person loves comes from their background at home. Is it not logical that if a person is mistreated and not shown love that they will most likely have a hard time finding a person, trusting them, and eventually falling in love with them..or vice versa? I agree that love does take on a different "form", if you will, because it doesn't change... it only becomes deeper and it matures as you mature. I for one know that you can fall in love with someone when your young because I was there at one time. I was completely head over heals. I loved him like there was no tomorrow. However, that love didn't mature as I did. The love was there but it was between two immature people and love can not survive if the two people aren't able to handle it. I was very immature at that point. He and I were forced to move on. However, that's not saying it wasn't "true" love because I know in my heart it was.

I know it was the real thing.. a lot of things contributed to our brakeup. A lot of things that should leave me cold and bitter towards love or to him. None of them have. He moved on and I moved on. It was so hard though, I lost my best friend, the person I wanted to spend forever with all in one day. It almost brought my world down. Finally, one day I picked myself up and got on with other things. I realized that I hadn't really lost anything just gained some really wonderful memories. He may not think of it this way but I do. I have to or I would go insane. Not all people can say they experienced what I have and I feel blessed to have gotten too. I don't hate him, I love the person he used to be. He has since gotten into drugs and has completely turned his life upside down. He's on the verge of quiting school and I realized that I didn't want that in my life because I wanted more for myself than that. I can't change him, only he can change himself. He has to want to before he can change. It's ok though because I know my life isn't over. I will love someone again because there is someone out there for everyone. You just have to be willing to get hurt 100 times to be happy once. Maybe 200 times to be happy twice..(like in my case)!

In case some of you are thinking.."ok..where is this person going with all of this?" Well..it all boils down to this, teens can find that special someone and fall in love. You just have to be mature enough to handle "EVERYTHING" that being in love has to offer..the good, the bad, and the ugly!!!

Sorry this was so long but it's just a testimony for teens that are in love or have been at one time...at least I think

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posted 04-01-2003 06:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Beezil     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've always felt it is so insulting for the blanket statement "teens WILL have sex."

I abstained through my teen years, and now at 30 I'm so glad I did! When I think back to those little boys I was in school with, the one's at the time I viewed as men! LOL! The thought of having had sex with any of them is horrible!

And now when I see teen boys, or teenagers in general, they seem like such small children trying so desperately to play grown up games when they act sexual. For those teens on the board who feel offended right now, trust me, some day you'll know EXACTLY what I am saying. And take a good, long, look at your "mate." Then really think about what you are giving this person, at this time of your life. Look at the real adult world and see how far you have to go. Then be like an 18 year old employee of mine; no college, no full time job, because that so called "right of passage" got her a new baby and an apartment she can't afford with a guy she's barely known for a year and is already talking about breaking up with.

Kids desperately want an excuse to have sex and what better excuse than adults who constantly spew out "teens WILL have sex!"

We have such little faith in the character of our youth, that we aren't even trying to develop it in them!

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I don't like the idea of kids having sex either. I mean kids that are 12,13,14 years old. I had sex for the first time right before I turned 17, and had my now 7 year old daughter right after I turned 18. I never once regretted her and she was very well taken care of. The only thing I regret is that her father has not been in her life. At 17, I thought I was in love and ready for sex and a baby. What I thought was love turned out to be a passing phase but I was still left with a child. I am now getting ready to turn 26, I am married to a wonderful man in the Air Force, have a degree, and 2 younger children. My life could not be better but will I wish for a teen life like I had for my 2 girls? NO! Maybe they will have sex when they are 16 or 17, maybe they won't, but 12,13, or 14? Hell no.

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I think a great amount of responsibility goes to the parents to teach their kids about sex. There is so much more to it then the basic "Bird and the Bees" story that the average parents tell their children. If parents are open to discussions about sex and other related items, the kids would be more willing to talk to their parents, instead of asking their peers.

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ok-I needed to add my opinion too-I remember 10 years ago when I was 17 and how I thought I knew everything there was to know about love cuz I had so many boyfriends so I knew what I was doing-yeah right!! it wasn't til about 3 years ago that I finally knew what the true meaning of love was-I believe it has everything to do with maturity! I finally grew up and my whole attitude towards relationships changed dramatically! love becomes something totally different when you are ready for it!

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posted 06-01-2003 05:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for allygirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm 16. I wouldn't have sex yet,with anyone, whether I 'loved' them or not.

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posted 06-02-2003 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wrin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
allygirl, that's your prerogative.

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posted 06-02-2003 07:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for allygirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A'course it is.

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posted 06-03-2003 02:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for netviper13     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I suppose the thing that bugs me is that kids are having sex before they really even know what it is. I mean the sheer amount of posts on the teen forum of girls asking "how do I give my boyfriend head" or "help it hurts when I have sex the first time, why?" shows that people don't even know what, much less the consequences of what they are doing.

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I agree, they barely know how to spell sexual terms, yet they are out there having it because it is the "in thing" to do.

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I agree with you netviper, that many teens jump into the sack before they even realize what they're doing. But I have to say, Dianabarry, I strongly disagree that teens have sex because it's the "in" thing. They have sex because they are hormone crazed and believe they are in love. I, for one, am a virgin now. But I don't plan on waiting for marriage, just until I am mature enough to handle the responsibility. And I believe many more teens than we credit are in fact mature enough to handle sex.

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True they are hormone crazed, but if one day, sex was looked upon as a "bad thing that was not cool", kids would not be doing it at the rate they are now. and what does a 15 year old boy know about love?

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Kids having sex is not a new thing. Everybody is like oh my god, I cant believe they would do this. However how many of you had sex when you were very young? I am not saying it is alright for people to have sex at a young age, however people have been having sex at young ages for a very long time.

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What does a 15 year old boy know about love? Hmm.. well he loves his mom..and his dad..and maybe his dog. Is it IMPOSSIBLE that MAYBE he could love his girlfriend?

A 4 year old girl loves her mommy, because her mommy takes care of her. She feeds her, clothes her, puts a roof over her head, and maybe reads her a bedtime story every night. The love the 4 year old feels is kind of 'dependent love'. I think that as we grow older the feelings of love grow stronger. When that 4 year old is 25 will she still love her mom? Of corse. The feeling will just be deeper because she's more mature.

I don't believe love comes in a million different forms. Love is just love. You don't have to be 20 to feel it. Dogs feel love for their owners. Babies feel love for their parents. Husbands feel love for their wives. Do you get what I'm saying?

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Thr greek have defined 3 types of love, I can't remeber the greek names, but the first type of love is for family, another, for friends, and another for a spouse. They are all different, and they all have different meanings. If you love your mom, would you want to have intercourse with her? There are different kinds of love. And to add, many teenagers use love as a cover up to their hormones, becuase no one accepts hormones as a logical reason, all people can think about, is that we are humans who are decent manenred, and have no animal instincts in us once so ever.

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Yah but Dianabarry put some thought into the anthropology behind it -- people are PROGRAMMED to reproduce, sex will only become 'uncool' to a particular few, who are insular and fundamentally different from the group.

Sex will never be uncool anymore than eating will be uncool. There'll always be anorexics and there'll always be the sexually constipated. But don't expect either to become the majority anytime soon, becuase impressions made on children at that age tend to be carried into adulthood. Let's give the kid a pathos about sex -- and then expect him to become a fully functional sexual being at age 25!

You can't have it both ways.

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If you love your mom, would you want to have intercourse with her?

No. But, IMO, sexual attraction is not always associated with 'love'. There are PLENTY of guys I would love to sleep with, but definetly do not care about. And then, I love my mother but would not sleep with her (ugh);-).

I know what the Greeks thought, but it's just my opinion. If you care about someone under any circumstances, then you love them. I love my mom, and my boyfriend the same.

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Sex and love are two very different things,as you all know. I don't think the majority of adolescents have sex because they love or think they love their partner. However, nor do I believe that it's solely because they are 'hormone crazed'. Adolescents are people (young people,yes) who I'm sure have sex no more or less often than the rest of you. You can't just lump them altogether and say they do what they do because of this or that. People don't work that way.

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Plenty of teen don't have sex. They just don't mention it. For those teens and adults inistent that all kids do it, you may be surprised by who ISN'T. I knew more than a few "cool kids" who were just plain lying, never having had sex or having had it once or twice then stopping, yet going on and on about how much they did it.

Ah, the things you learn as you grow into adulthood and people start telling the truth about what they DIDN'T do! And no, not people putting up a front for their kids. But rather, childless, single younger adults who are finally comfortable with who they are and can speak honestly about their actions (or lack thereof!).

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Teenagers (lets not call them 'kids') having sex really isn't that big of deal. It's their business and they have the right to a personal sex life which, in all honesty, really shouldn't affect everyone else. The thing that really irritates me (when it probably shouldn't) is that some teens (and even adults!) are just so careless about it. I was reading over the pregnancy board and someone said "I've been having unprotected sex for a year, could I be pregnant?" I mean, come on! OF CORSE your going to get pregnant eventually, that's what sex IS! If teens are MATURE about it and use protection but can accept contraceptive failure like ADULTS then I really don't see a problem with it. Who cares? Sex is something personal. And like stated before, it's more of a maturity thing than an age thing.

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13-18 is a massively critical time where the teenager learns about their body, their true self, how others react to them, and about the opposite sex. It is indeed misfortunate that so many young adults have so many misconceptions about sex, pregnancy, and STD's. There are some who can appreciate sex and do it with the proper precautions but others who are just so filled with misinformation and ultimately put their lives in the hands of myths.

You never stop learning, and the more you learn, the more you understand how much there is you don't know. My main wish would be that teenagers would be more educated on the subject by parents and the schools.

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Wow, this topic has been running for a LONG time. I am 18 now and when we started this I was just turning 17. Hee hee

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Humans are sexual beings, get over it.
As long as the person is mature enough to appreciate what they're doing, and smart enough to know what to do and what not to do and what things are blah blah blah, then I don't know what all the complaints are about. Look around you, every single person you see has a body underneath those clothes, a penis or a vagina, and we all have seen them and touched one or the other at some point. Bodies are nothing to be afraid of.

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Really people, there aren't many kids going to wait till marraige to have sex...It really deals with your kids mind, does he want to have sex or does he thinks that this is right for him because today in the real world the parents really don't have control if kids will have sex its up to them to make their decison. I don't believe in abstinence that much but sometimes people know when its right and when its wrong.

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I think everyone should just have sex when thier own body is ready for it. Sex education is good because it teaches them the dangers and precautions of sex, but this talk about teens should not have sex until late teen years is just bull. Everyone progresses at their own level. You have those which are old souls such as myself which come into this world already having a higher level of advancement over many others, and picks things up very young. I know I started first masturbating at 4, and was totally ready and wanting sex at 7 and 8 yeas of age. But due to the tampering of my personal existence and life by a group of time travelers from the future which came back and totally messed with my life and health in order to keep me from being a posible interference to their corrupt operations in the very near future to take over the world, I am now 23 and still a danm virgin suffering terrible daily in every which way because of the illegal alterations they have done to my entire life and health. This conspiracy wanted me to have absolutely nothing out of life. They set it up so I couldn't even find love. So back to the subject of this post, if 2 young minds feel as though they are both ready to have and wanting sex it does not matter of age. What does matter is that they get the education from class and from their parents at an age of the dangers and precautions to take. I can remember in 3rd grade many kids in my class had also had sex. In addittion, another reason kids are ready at an early age is because of all the hormones which are in meat and animal products from the disgusting feed our government allows ranchers to do.

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posted 09-07-2003 12:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JimBob999     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Take it from me im 14 and i have one most thing except intercourse and thats only because i broke up with my g/f and i knew it wasnt going to last untill marige but i would have had intercourse with her if she wanted to, the relationship lasted 5 months, and i can say at least %50 of my friends have either had intercurse or have had oral in some way, and i dont see nothing wrong n it, as long as thyey use protection there aint nothing wrong in it that i can see, and espicialy when your in your teens sex and oral is a good way to get rid of sexual tension w/o masterbating, and why should teenagers masterbate solo when they have a girlfriend to take the sexuaal tension away for you? huh?

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posted 09-07-2003 04:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JAYB     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think there's so much pressure on kids today to lose their virginity. It's always been like that but with the sex saturated media it's even worse.
A study that came out a few years ago said they're losing it at 15 or 16, and this is causing kids older than that to think they're freaks or something because they haven't done it yet.
One guy on a post said that he was 22 and a virgin and was more or less embarassed and didn't know how to tell a woman he was a virgin. That's ridiculous! Everyone has sexual feelings(well mostly everyone), but that doesn't mean we have to act on them at such a young age.
What will the studies in 10 years say that kids are losing it at 10 or 11?

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posted 09-08-2003 01:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rikimaru     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Part of whether or not you're ready to have sex involves whether or not you're ready to be responsible for the consequences of your actions. Many people these days, regardless of age, are not willing to accept responsibility for their actions, be those actions sexual or otherwise. The key problem with having sex at an early age is you don't have the foresight or experience to plan out how to prepare for problems should they arise. It's like going into a firefight with a gun, but no ammo. Of course, many adults never develop this ability as well... just look at our highways. People are utterly incapable of thinking "Oh, I need to be in the right lane in half a mile to turn right." Instead, they rip across 4 lanes of traffic at the last minute.

As far as the question of "maturity," the first people to say they are mature for their age are often the last people to display enough maturity to back up that claim. The claim in itself shows a level of arrogance and lack of humility that true maturity generates. If your best defense is "Yeah, but I'm mature for my age," then chances are you're a lot less mature than you think you are.

As for "more" kids having sex.... I think it's more a case of the public simply **knowing** of more kids having sex, rather than more existing. With the web, TV, sensationalist polls and such... we just have a more public tally of kids having sex than we did 20 or 30 years ago. People were just as horny and stupid in the 50s, 40s, 30s, or even 1800s or 1700s or so on. The main difference now is simply more people KNOW they're having sex. We've all heard of the 50s references to "Make Out Point" and stuff like that. What did you think they were doing up there... trading baseball cards?

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posted 09-09-2003 12:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hotkiss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
what you are saying is discriminating.. seriously. I've been with my bf for over a year have we had sex course.. do we love eachother yes. I know plently of people like me. I had sex with him when I was 15. and yes times have changed. we're more responsible. I'm using two methods of bc. I think youre being old school and down right rude. people these days pick on us teenagers. live your own life.. let us worry about ours.

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posted 09-09-2003 11:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mommy_of_two     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In response to F-Man's post:

I fell in love with a boy when I was in 7th grade (12 years old), he was in 8th grade (13 years old). I'M EXTREMELY ASHAMED to say that we had sex for the first time when I was 13 and he was 14 (now that I have children myself I KRINGE at the thought!!!) I agree with your belief that there are way too many "children" having sex and pray to God that mine don't until their brains mature (which is a lot slower than their bodies...especially in present time!)!!

HOWEVER...about your comment on relationships not lasting when begun at a young age (14) and kids not really being in love......my husband is that 14 year old boy I fell in love with 18 years ago and we have 2 WONDERFUL children together (ages 11 and 6). It DOES happen...maybe rarely...but it does.

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posted 09-10-2003 12:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for allcoholl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't know about some of you guys, but does the whole "teens not being able to fall in love" *****ing ever get old? I actually believe in that statement for the average 14 or 15 year old. It's possible that the love grows later on if you stay with that person, but what most kids that age don't understand is that there are numerous kinds of love. For christ sake, the kind of love we're talking about here is not the kind you feel for a friend, and plenty of people have demonstrated in this forum, on this topic, that they don't know what they're saying by comparing it to that. The kind of love we're talking about here is something that I, myself, have never felt before. I guess that's a contradiction in itself, but that's the best way that I can describe what I'm trying to say. See, kids this age are always infatuated. Really, Ashlee (or whatever), we know that you love your boyfriend and your friends and stuff, but that's different compared to the love we're talking about in here. That is, unless, you've got one sick head. Anyhow, I'm just sick of teenagers my age talking about how they're in love with someone when they haven't even LIVED with them or even KNOWN them for more than a couple of years. I don't know, I'm just sick of all this intimacy crap being blown out of proportion and suddenly turned to "being in love" by stupid teenagers my age. **** that.

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