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john30 Newbie  Posts: 3 |
posted 03-25-2003 09:46 AM
  
Im a happily married 30 year old male from missouri.I enjoy having sex with my wife on a pretty frequent basis.The problem is that when she is gone at work and I am left alone,I like to walk around in her panties.It really turns me on when I wear them.Sometimes I have even put on some of her stockings or pantyhose.Does this indicate that there is something wrong with me?Does it mean that I could be gay?I am very confused. IP: Logged |
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NewMe Senior Member Posts: 205 |
posted 03-25-2003 10:05 AM
Are you attracted sexually to men? I dont know where gay would come into play, when you only enjoy the feel of your wifes panties, hose etc. Its just a fetish that you enjoy. No need to worry, unless you know something more than what you choose to admit. :-) IP: Logged |
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john30 Newbie Posts: 3 |
posted 03-25-2003 10:12 AM
I have never been with a guy nor have I ever entertained the thought.I just know some people automatically assume your gay or weird because of a certain fetish.My wife doesnt know that I have this fetish.Wish I could tell her but she would freak. IP: Logged |
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NewMe Senior Member Posts: 205 |
posted 03-25-2003 10:21 AM
Are you attracted sexually to men? I dont know where gay would come into play, when you only enjoy the feel of your wifes panties, hose etc. Its just a fetish that you enjoy. No need to worry, unless you know something more than what you choose to admit. :-) IP: Logged |
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SkipperK Senior Member Posts: 106 |
posted 03-25-2003 05:55 PM
You might wanna talk to your wife about this sooner or later cause what could happen is she will one day find out you were wearing her stuff or catch you in the act and at that point the sh*t will hit the fan. She will most likely freak out and assume the worse. Sometimes honesty is the best policy its just a matter of how you present it and at what moment. Good luck. IP: Logged |
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tinkers Senior Veteran  Posts: 1257 |
posted 03-25-2003 08:39 PM
Honesty is best. Speaking as a woman though, if I ever caught my husband in my underwear or if he ever told me about this fetish...I would totally freak out. Sorry, that's just my opinion. Tink IP: Logged |
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AndyF Newbie Posts: 1 |
posted 04-29-2003 12:27 PM
Don't worry about it. I have been wearing panties full time for about 10 years, and am only 27. I even wore them at school, but no-one saw. It doesn't bother me who knows. I go to the gym and people see. I don't have a problem, and nor does my girlfriend. We go out to buy her underwear, and always end up coming home with 2 pairs of panties (provideing the style is compatible with mens anatomy), a pair for her and a pair for me, we find it great for our sex life. Ignore those who have a go at you, they are narrow minded. In fact I am wearing baby pink stretch satin panties now, and I am at work. Go with whatever makes you happy, good luck. IP: Logged |
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RhondaBradshaw Member Posts: 71 |
posted 04-29-2003 01:24 PM
I hear you AndyF. If it feels good do it! Women's clothes are designed to make one feel sexy. I think you have the right to it (feeling sexy), even if you are a male wearing female clothing! Do whatever works for you and kudo's for sharing it with us. Gotta Love a man who isn't afraid to speak his mind! My boyfriend would look ridiculous in my panties but I bet I could get him to wear them. Hummmmm...Now I'm having thoughts at work about my man in my panties. LOL!  IP: Logged |
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Rat_in_a_cage Senior Member Posts: 104 |
posted 04-29-2003 02:46 PM
If you aint' gay, you're on your way. IP: Logged |
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wrin Senior Veteran Posts: 2166 |
posted 04-29-2003 05:43 PM
ratinacage, I fail to see what the association is between a sexual attraction and a particular piece of clothing. IP: Logged |
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Ron Z Member Posts: 57 |
posted 04-30-2003 07:06 AM
Jobs had my wife and I separated by a 1000 miles for six months - it was easier for me to visit her. When leaving I would take a pair of her undies = usually slept and masturbated in them - she knew. When i would get home i would be missing underwear - if mentioned my wife would say she did it with her laundry so it would be clean for my next visit. A lot of the time i wear mens nylon underwear - it is comfortable - I travel a lot and take as little as possible - it dries quickly - and there is nothing like being fondled in a slick pair of nylon briefs. Wear what you want! IP: Logged |
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SouthernCaliforniaGirl Member Posts: 37 |
posted 04-30-2003 08:11 AM
If I found out my boyfriend was wearing my underwear, or any type of women's undewear, I'd freak out. Even if he wasn't gay, I'd say he had some serious emotional, mental and psychological problems to deal with. The only thing he should be interested when it comes to my underwear is taking it off me when we have sex. IP: Logged |
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bigballz1981 Member Posts: 58 |
posted 04-30-2003 08:53 AM
I agree... IP: Logged |
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ButtMunch Senior Member Posts: 105 |
posted 04-30-2003 12:40 PM
I would FREAK at my man if i found out or caught him wearing my underwear...that's my opinion I don't have a problem with other men doing it, but my man WON'T!! But seriously can't you get your own female panties i can't imagine how gross that is, it's not clean at all! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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SouthernCaliforniaGirl Member Posts: 37 |
posted 04-30-2003 01:10 PM
What I want to know is how you can even fit into your wife's panties? My waist is 24, my boyfriend's is 34. They would be so small on him, they'd rip instantly. Either you have a small waist and package, or your wife has a waist as big as yours. Either way, leave her underwear to herself and wear only yours. IP: Logged |
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googoodoll Member Posts: 42 |
posted 05-07-2003 11:34 AM
I think that you are probably gay and either don't know it or don't want to admit it. if you are gay or think you might be-that is totally fine-but you need to be honest with yourself and especially your girlfriend! you have every right to do what you enjoy-but you do not have the right to lie and betray someone else-just my thoughts-  IP: Logged |
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bradford54 Senior Member Posts: 160 |
posted 05-07-2003 11:50 AM
Wearing your wifes underwear DOES NOT make you gay. Being attacted to men in and inmate manner would make you gay. I think you have an underwear fetish, and may need counciling if your wife fines out, for both of you. IP: Logged |
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Calixte_Silas Veteran Posts: 306 |
posted 05-07-2003 12:24 PM
I'm sick of reading all these posts that say "you're wearing women's underwear - you're either gay and won't admit it, or you're going to become gay." Have any of you ever heard of transvestites? Men who dress in women's clothing? The majority of them are heterosexual. So why would a man that is dressing in just panties some of the time be gay? Basically it breaks down like this: Some men like to feel sexy, maybe even a bit feminine because in our soceity feminine=sexy. However our society also says that feminine=gay (if you're male.) Which is ridiculous. Men who wear women's underwear are not automatically gay. IP: Logged |
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bradford54 Senior Member Posts: 160 |
posted 05-07-2003 12:49 PM
Thank You Calixte_Silas, you said it better than I could. IP: Logged |
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googoodoll Member Posts: 42 |
posted 05-07-2003 05:55 PM
okay then here is my question to all of you who like to wear girls undies-if you are not gay-why do that? it's very wierd and is not normal at all! womens underwear belong on women-why do you think they are in the woman's section? and if you are not gay-maybe you should consider a sex change operation-cuz obviously you have vaginal envy. IP: Logged |
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jeffery Member Posts: 60 |
posted 05-09-2003 07:53 AM
I don't think if a guy wears women's panties that makes him automatically gay. But if you like wearing your wife's panties, I would suggest you buying your own. I don't think she would appriciate you streching hers out. IP: Logged |
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Calixte_Silas Veteran Posts: 306 |
posted 05-09-2003 06:43 PM
I would have to agree with buying his own set of women's underwear. But Bigballz, you're still not giving any proof or reasoning on why it's 'borderline gay.' Just because someone doesn't act the same or think the same as you makes them different? Just because they go against what most people think is the way to go? That makes them gay? Christobo Colgne, Chirstofer Columbus as you may know him- had a radical idea. It was different than everyone else's. And look what he found! A whole other half of the planet! Jesus, is another example. Believed something different from everyone else - and he started one of the most popular religions in the world. Before you say that neither of those are relevant, let me explain. Both of these ideas were very different from what everyone else thought. But they led to great things. IP: Logged |
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JBlaze Junior Member Posts: 14 |
posted 05-13-2003 05:06 PM
Wearing womens clothe does not make you gay. Having a Fetish like your saying you have, means something happened to you when you were young and getting into sex. I'm not saying something bad happened, I'm just saying something that made you connect womens clothe to getting turned on. IP: Logged |
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tinkers Senior Veteran Posts: 1257 |
posted 05-13-2003 09:07 PM
Just curious, but why the fetish of female underwear? Tink IP: Logged |
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Hooper33 Senior Member Posts: 82 |
posted 05-13-2003 10:54 PM
YES !! (Sorry) IP: Logged |
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JDinCA Veteran Posts: 318 |
posted 05-14-2003 02:10 AM
Why do heterosexual men always think men who wear woman's clothes and underwear are gay? It makes no sense to me. Gay men are turned on by MEN! Not WOMEN! It is masculinity that is attractive to a gay man not femininity.Most men that dress up in women's garments are straight men because they are turned on by the feminine aspect. But believe me it is not a turn on to gay men. When you see a gay man dressed as a woman it is to spoof the connotation of what straight people think about gay men a costume at Halloween but not sexually intended but more for laughs. Most gay men I know 99% want their men to be men and not mimic women in any way shape or form. Gay men love C- -K and packaged accordingly in jockey's,boxer's, jock-straps, or bouncing freely in his pants. But never ever in women's underwear or even less of a turn on in women's pantyhose. So stop associating that whole fetish with gay men whom repel any notion of it. IP: Logged |
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Dawn27 Member Posts: 27 |
posted 05-14-2003 02:26 AM
John, I think its great you can express your likes and dislikes. I have wore my husbands underwear before. It kills me to know that it is more acceptable in this country for a women to do this then a man. One of my girlfriends in highschool I spent the night with her and our old dear friend came by and he was picking through my girlfriends nighties.. He put one on and pranced around in it. I found it very funny. But, its just because you dont see that every day. If we all did I think those that disagree would be able to accept it more. Its what makes you, you. If she cant accept what you like then that is her problem not yours. Good way to test her love for you Misty IP: Logged |
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Glazier Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted 05-16-2003 01:47 AM
I wear only panties for my choice of underwear,and YES you CAN buy panties in your size. My wife knows that I wear panties and does'nt have A problem with it at all. I'm more comfortable wearing panties because I've never liked guy's underwear.There's nothing wrong with A male who likes to wear female underwear.Have you ever noticed how many styles of womens underwear that there are? More styles,more colors,more fabrics all add up to more comfort.Panties DO FIT A MALES ANATOMY. They fit mine better than guy's underwear. Who wants to wear tighty whiteys or boxers? Put A little spice in your life. It's ok for two guy's to have sex,but it's not ok for A guy to wear what he chooses? Don't wear hers,buy some to fit YOU! I don't understand why some people are so closed minded? You're not breaking the law,you're wearing panties! Stop worrying,live free.We have so many people fighting for our freedom,it's disrespectful not to enjoy it! P.S. I've served my country! [This message has been edited by Glazier (edited 05-16-2003).] IP: Logged |
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ACTrojan Member Posts: 40 |
posted 05-18-2003 11:22 PM
Would you enjoy wearing new panties, perhaps just purchased from the store? Or, do you just enjoy wearing your wife's panties b/c you knew she was in them? Cheers. IP: Logged |
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undercover angel Member Posts: 48 |
posted 05-19-2003 02:53 PM
WOW! talk about two very differnent arguments here! one is saying that you are gay or going to become gay and the other applauds you for being an individual. I think it is really obvious who the really closed minded people are. In my personal opinion, if i found out my boyfriend was wearing MY panties, i would be a little freaked out at first. Not because he was in panties, but because he was in MY panties.  however, It is a personal choice just like every other piece of clothing you put on. when the first guy decided to get his ear pierced, i am sure everyone thought he was gay but there are quite a few females (myself included) who think it is really really sexy! I am not saying that you shouldnt talk to your wife/gf about this, i think that if you are wearing her clothes, you should tell her, but i wear some clothing of my boy's (i do tell him though) so why should this be any different? IP: Logged |
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modzak Member Posts: 73 |
posted 05-19-2003 06:17 PM
yeah it's perfectly ok for a woman to wear men's clothes..suits, ties, boots, flannel shirts etc. just more of the double standard. if you like panties, go for it. not a big deal. i'm so old i remember when women never wore pants!! IP: Logged |
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mommajessibelle Veteran Posts: 329 |
posted 05-19-2003 11:04 PM
why are you people saying he is gay or he is turning gay because he likes to wear his wifes underwear i have a male family member that is gay and he doesnt wear girls underwear this man has a fetish big deal leave the poor guy alone millions of people have fetishes far worse that a man wearing his wifes underwear get over it and get over the gay thing the man is married its a fetish if you havent heard of it look it up hey i wear my husbands boxers all the time does that make me gay or turning gay too ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Glazier Newbie Posts: 5 |
posted 05-20-2003 02:50 AM
Let me add something to my last post before things get out of hand. I don't have ANYTHING against gay people at all.I was simply using that as an example. Society accepts crossdressing women because they think it's sexy to see A woman dressed in A mans pair of boxers and button-up shirt.We don't think that because A woman wears these things that she's GAY OR A Lesbian.Let them be "free" in their choices and let A guy be "free" in his. I've been Married for A long time (over ten years) and my wife does'nt think any less of me for wearing panties. She knows that I'm more comfortable wearing panties than I am wearing "guy's" underwear. We have gotten so used to this "label" thing that sometimes we can't see people for WHO they are. I WOULD talk to your S.O. about this and let her know your feelings on the subject.Belive me,when dicused it with my wife, I thought that she was going to divorce me. Instead,she said "SO,you want to wear panties?,then wear panties,whatever makes you feel comfortable! I'm not saying that EVERY Female is this understanding,but you DO need to talk to her about it.And FURTHERMORE,guy's that wear the oppisite sex's clothing are NOT gay and does'nt mean that they have issues relating to being gay.I don't "flash" my panties at anyone and don't wear them to do strange things in them. I wear them for comfort. IP: Logged |
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Sunflower4u Member Posts: 29 |
posted 05-24-2003 12:14 AM
I realize that many cross dressers are straight, but I find this a bit wierd. I love my boyfriend and we are both openminded, but would not want to see him in my bra and panties. IP: Logged |
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Snazzy101 Veteran Posts: 292 |
posted 05-25-2003 07:44 AM
I think a lot of people give "politically correct" answers to these questions to show how opened-minded they are. I think it would be a different story if THEIR man suddenly started wearing women's panties. Would they not mind if the guy started wearing bras too? How about stockings and heels? Make-up? Personally, it's none of my business if John X likes to wear women's panties. I don't have to see it, so why should it bother me? On the other hand, it IS my business if my husband started doing it. Why? Because it's the biggest turn-off. I don't want to see him take off his pants and stand there in pink lace panties LOL IP: Logged |
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Calixte_Silas Veteran Posts: 306 |
posted 05-25-2003 11:18 AM
True, it may be a turn off for you, however, I would bet that for some it wouldn't make any difference or might even be a turn on. As for wearing a bra and make up, that's not what they're talking about. The thread is about underwear. Not about transvestites or the like. IP: Logged |
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Snazzy101 Veteran Posts: 292 |
posted 05-25-2003 02:38 PM
I know they weren't talking about bras and make-up, I was just wondering where someone would draw the line. For all those people who say they wouldn't mind their man wearing panties, are they really that open-minded and understanding? What if he wanted to wear a bra too? Still cool? What if he decided he wanted to wear diapers? Still ok? I think it's easy to say, "Oh, what's the big deal?" when you're talking about other people. But when it's YOUR guy in the pink lace panties, or diapers, or whatever, I bet the story would be a lot different. Just my opinion! I'm glad everyone is so understanding! I'm not LOL For other people, sure, why not? Dress however you like. For my own hubby? YUCK. IP: Logged |
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TheVampClaudia Senior Member Posts: 112 |
posted 05-25-2003 03:28 PM
I would be sooo turned on if my boyfreind wore my panties and stalkings. I would want him to tell me,i would have him do it in front of me. I would dress him up and do him in the clothing,theres absolutly NOTHING wrong with you doing that john,tell your wife. IP: Logged |
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TifaStrife16 Member Posts: 50 |
posted 05-28-2003 12:53 PM
Um, I don't think you should be wearing her underwear behind her back, but the actual act of wearing womens' underwear really isn't as bad as people are making it out to be. Nowadays I know a lot of girls who wear boxers, for fun or cause they're more comfortable to them, but that doesn't make them lesbians. If guys want to do this with panties then it really doesn't have to be 'weird' or a 'fetish', I just wouldn't recommend trying to be sexy to your wife/gf in them, because part of what makes being with a man sexy is being with a MAN. This goes for girls wearing boxers too, I think most men would find their women more sexy in womens' underwear... IP: Logged |
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SpawnGuy Junior Member Posts: 6 |
posted 05-31-2003 12:51 PM
Hey, I just want to put my two cents in and say that John30, I'm 24 years old, and I like to do the same thing. My fiancee is very accepting of my "odd sexual habits", and she would rather me do them WITH her than in private. In your case, though, like most others have already said: 1) You're not gay; 2) Do wutcha like!! IP: Logged |
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