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posted 06-03-2003 12:12 PM            

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I've been together with this girl for around 6 months already. EVerything is well, except, for when I try to go down on her, she resists. As I kiss her stomach when I start moving down she either gently pulls me back up with her hands or says she wants to kiss me and pulls me up. I haven't specifically talked with her about that, I don't know why. She is also really sensitive, in terms like everything is "ticklish", like at the ribs. Is it the same "ticklish" issue down there you thin? Or is she just shy or something??!?! I really want to give her that pleasure and I don't understand why she won't let me. ANy thoughts/advice on that ticklish issue in general and on the going down part in specific?!?!

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posted 06-03-2003 12:56 PM            

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I don't think she would be ticklish down there. There's about a million reasons why she might not want you to go down on her though. Maybe she has an infection or was on her period and didn't want to tell you. Maybe she just doesn't like the idea of oral sex or she's self conscience. Either way you NEED to talk to her.

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posted 06-03-2003 01:27 PM            

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Speaking from experience I can name a few reason's she might not like it. Maybe she had someone in her past that didn't do it right and so now she has bad feelings about it or maybe someone has told her that her body wasn't good enough so she's scared that you won't like it also. The best thing to do is to talk to her. Plus the sensitive thing is due to the fact that she's not relaxed because she's afraid or nervous.
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posted 06-03-2003 05:13 PM            

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She could be ticklish, but as the previous posters mentioned, the possibilities are endless.
Personally I get really self conscious sometimes, and deter my partner from giving me pleasure. Somedays I just feel worse about my body than others. Maybe she's afraid that you will be disgusted by an odor(which may or may not even be there. COuld just be a fear of hers to "smell bad").
It seems to really be bothering you, so maybe sit down and try to talk to her, understand what's going on. Make sure she knows you care and want to solve the problem and please her etc. If a direct way isn't accomplishable as it seems, try to incorporate the subject into a current discussion you are having(in a non direct way, as it could lead to ideas about what is going on. It may also help with finding the best way to approach her. All in all, you should be able to be straight forward with her and let her know that it bothers you).
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posted 06-03-2003 05:23 PM            

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All very good answers so far. I only want to add that maybe next time you're down around her belly, you stay there and just keep stimulating her with your hand(s). She may relax to the idea if you are gentle and slow, and basically sneak up on her while she is very turned on. You obviously don't want to force it, so if she's dead set on stopping you, stop. You'll just have to talk to her. Question: has she ever let any one else ever do it? If not, then most likely, she is very selfconcious about it.

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posted 06-06-2003 08:17 PM            

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maybe she just doesnt want to. have yall had sex?(sorry to be so blunt). if not it could just be one of her boundries. you should definitly talk to her. that way you 2 will have a better understanding of yalls limits.

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posted 06-06-2003 09:59 PM            

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maybe she is afraid of getting herpes? it is possible to give someone genital leisons from oral sex if the person giving it has ever had a cold sore. maybe it is just not her thing and she is not into it.

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posted 06-07-2003 09:42 PM            

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i have a somehwhat related question... i dont have a problem with letting my bf go down on me...but when he does, it just doesnt do much... and it can't be because hes bad, i can tell he's not... its been the same with 3 different people... it never ever brings me to orgasm...but intercourse does. isnt it usually the other way around?

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posted 06-08-2003 09:39 AM            

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Yes we do have sex. That's kind of the only thing that is missing. I never had a cold sore in my life. She is probably nervous about it or something. I'll try it again and if same thing happens I am gonna have to talk to her.

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posted 06-08-2003 01:17 PM            

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Originally posted by ce:
i have a somehwhat related question... i dont have a problem with letting my bf go down on me...but when he does, it just doesnt do much... and it can't be because hes bad, i can tell he's not... its been the same with 3 different people... it never ever brings me to orgasm...but intercourse does. isnt it usually the other way around?

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Generally yeah, it's usually the other way around. Some women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, while others with intercourse. I wouldn't worry about it too much, as long as you're getting your orgasms through something Everyone is different, so definately don't sweat it.
You might want to have a talk with your partner about it though, which shouldn't be a problem b/c as I said he can help you reach orgasm in other ways

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posted 06-13-2003 11:57 PM            

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maybe she just wanted to kiss you...i would much rather participate than sit there...some women are very stimulated by kissing...

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posted 06-14-2003 02:35 PM            

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I sometimes make my boyfriend stop before he goes down there too, although I HAVE let him do it before, it's just that I'd rather he didn't. Not because I'm afraid of getting herpes or because I'm self-conscious, it's just that it's not that great for me. Maybe your gf already knows that she doesn't like guys to perform oral sex on her. Personally, I'd rather the guy just use his hands on me, so your gf could be in the same situation as me. Ask her what she would rather have you do. Maybe she's just not ready for that yet.

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