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posted 02-14-2001 10:11 PM            

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I'm 16, grade 11. The last time I had a girlfriend was back in grade 8. At that age, the guy would just say "would u go out with me" and if the girl had said yes, then the two would become boyfriend and girlfriend on the spot. Now, in grade 11, do people still become girlfriend and boyfriend on the spot as in grade 8, or does "will u go out with me" mean will u go on a date with me. Hope that's not too confusing.

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posted 02-14-2001 11:02 PM            

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it's been a long time - but i think it still means "just a date"
usually you are only boyfriend/girlfriend if you hit it off and have a couple dates or talk about it and decide to date each other only. Either way, get out there and have fun. Remember that you're only young once - and don't worry so much - she is probably worried also!

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posted 02-14-2001 11:03 PM            

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it's been a long time - but i think it still means "just a date"
usually you are only boyfriend/girlfriend if you hit it off and have a couple dates or talk about it and decide to date each other only. Either way, get out there and have fun. Remember that you're only young once - and don't worry so much - she is probably worried also!

Peace

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posted 02-16-2001 04:18 AM            

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hi i am 17 and i asked my boyfriendf out with the tradional "will u go out with me" and we hav been together for a couple of months, i doesn't really matter how you ask her, i am sure she is just waiting for u to walk up to her and to ask her those special words.

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posted 02-17-2001 12:34 AM            

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This is a message to Caz. When you asked your boyfriend out and he said yes, did you consider him your boyfriend when he answered or did you go out on a date, then considered him as your boyfriend?

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posted 02-17-2001 09:44 PM            

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Just ask her out, take her to do something you both enjoy, see how it goes...after a second date, ask her if she'd like to be your 'girl'. Best of luck hun.

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posted 02-26-2001 11:23 AM            

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posted 02-26-2001 11:33 AM            

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honestly, it depends on the people. me and my boyfriend have been together exclusively for over 2 years. he never said "will you go out with me". after the first date i think you should be able to tell. if you kiss or hold hands in the hallways, your dating. if you just hang out, wait a little bit until it seems a little more serious. some people do still ask out other people saying those words but not that much. lately i guess its been more of eventually saying something like "so what are we exactly?" and usually they are thinking the same thing and you can clarify it for both of you. if someone said to me "will you go out with me?" i would think it meant boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to if he said "you wanna go out friday night." i know that was probably long and rambling but i hope it helped anyone who had the same question (since that was a while ago!)

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posted 02-26-2001 11:40 AM            

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honestly, it depends on the people. me and my boyfriend have been together exclusively for over 2 years. he never said "will you go out with me". after the first date i think you should be able to tell. if you kiss or hold hands in the hallways, your dating. if you just hang out, wait a little bit until it seems a little more serious. some people do still ask out other people saying those words but not that much. lately i guess its been more of eventually saying something like "so what are we exactly?" and usually they are thinking the same thing and you can clarify it for both of you. if someone said to me "will you go out with me?" i would think it meant boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to if he said "you wanna go out friday night." i know that was probably long and rambling but i hope it helped anyone who had the same question (since that was a while ago!)

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posted 02-26-2001 03:16 PM            

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The best way to get lots of dates is not to put too much pressure on the question. I always found that asking a girl 'straight up' 'Do you want to go to a movie or dinner' in high school, would lead to failure. I found that the question was too pointed and too controoling.
I got far more dates by saying something like: Hey, there's a great concert going on at....and there are a few of us going. So and so and so and so will be there. It will be a great group thing and I thought you'd enjoy the company.
It worked almost every time...no pressure...since it is a group the girl does not feel she has to stay with you. It usually works out well, but hey, if it doesn't you still have a good time with your friends, and the lady. If you hit it off...try something more 'quiet' the next time.
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posted 03-06-2001 10:56 AM            

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well it depends. When I was with one of my ex's, no-one asked anyone out, we just assumed we were together. Now with my current boyfriend he did the cheesy 'would you like to go out with me' and we more or less DID become bloke and bird on the spot. Please post back and let me know how youre doing with your 'loveless' life!
Always there,
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posted 03-22-2001 10:54 PM            

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"Will you go out with me?" Still refers to becoming b/f and g/f usually...

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posted 04-12-2001 03:24 PM            

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Sometimes you can luck out. A girl I had met through some friends asked my out after a several month period in which I hadn't seen her in awhile. We hit it off on the date and eventually I married her (14 years ago !!). Some guys don't like it if a girl asks them out, but I always thought it was kind of cool when it happened to me a few times. When I called a girl to ask her out, I'd never say "would you go out with me." As stated above by a few, the best way to to it is to say something like "hey, I hear that new movie is pretty cool, how about we grab some grub and then go check it out this Friday night?"

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posted 08-11-2002 04:17 PM            

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IM the same age, before the "will you go out with me" you are just "together" with the girl. You can stay together until you are sure you want to be officially going out with this person, then you ask them out. When you actually say "will you go out with me" or some form of that, after you are together, then you become boyfriend and girlfriend.

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posted 08-11-2002 09:56 PM            

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I just graduated high school, and until my senior year "will you go out with me just meant will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend. I think that you can definately "date" without dating persay. I think if you become boyfriend/girlfriend without dating first, then it is childish because you dont know the person. My advice is to just say, "hey would you like to go have dinner/see a movie/go bowling..." In my opinion asking that way is the mature way of "asking somone out" After a few dates, if things go well and you know eachother pretty well then you just kind of fall into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

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