posted 05-22-2003 02:20 PM            

I think this is something which can only be answered by you, though.My libido has not changed and I didn't have depression all of a sudden. I feel reactive to social factors.My peri-menopause was really mostly physical things and the only thing I can think of that may have been psychological was the need to slow down, introvert because of not feeling good from the physical symptoms.

It's hard for me, because many people take me for much younger than my age.I feel the need to maintain that because now at almost 44, it's a good feeling to be taken for somene younger.I do have a supportive boyfriend.(Social factors)

But the thing about the looks is true. I've wanted to dye my hair lighter, do something. I don't know if that just comes from being tired of having the same traits so long, or what.

posted 05-22-2003 08:39 PM            

I think my depression (which is questionable) stems from the fact that I found out that my husband had a 'sex addiction" at the same time I was in the middle of menopause. I think it would have affected me that way menopause or not..

"Middle age is a time of life change for many people." --totally agreed mrskramdon...change is never comfortable..but different...obviously...i appreciate your responses....again..you sound interesting.

posted 05-23-2003 09:47 AM            

Thanks for the compliment.

No, I have never been married but I am with the same guy for ten years. Would rather have been married, though.

That is a heavy thing, no matter what addicton.You have to try to remember that it is his problem , though, and not see yourself as the reason or cause.We can't help but let it affect us at some point as we are in the relationship, too , and it does affect us. As much as we are in a relationship with husbands or boyfriends,however, we are individuals and a lot of stuff is the person's stuff -would be no matter whom they were with.

Is this something which you two are going to work out or are you contemplating ending the relationship ?Lots of decisions, I know, and changing hormones are the last thing that help.