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Tominvestments Junior Member  Posts: 9 |
posted 05-17-2003 10:23 AM
  
We have an 8 1/2 month old boy, who up to now has been sleeping in our bed (very comfortably). We have decided it is time to get him out and into his own crib for several reasons. We have been trying to get him to sleep in his crib without any success. He will sleep for maybe 30 minutes, then sits up and screams for ever and ever. ANy advice on how to wean him from the family bed into his crib???? IP: Logged |
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Im_Robyn Senior Member Posts: 109 |
posted 05-17-2003 04:15 PM
My daughter slept in my bed until she was 9 months I only insisted she sleep in her crib becuase she fell of my bed too many times. I would allow her to fall asleep in my bed with me and then put her in her crib. It took about 2 months until she would except the fact she had to sleep in her crib. I think it that as long as your son falls asleep knowing you're near him he will be fine waking up in his crib. Robyn IP: Logged |
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kelly4 Member Posts: 74 |
posted 05-18-2003 06:27 PM
I would start out with naps at first. I did the family bed too but my kids from day one started taking anps in there crib so the transition would not be as hard. I would let him fall asleep in your bed and then move him. It will take a while no matter what you decide to do. I have 4 kids and they all were different. My 18 months old fell head first out of her crib onto hard wood floor at 12 months. I moved her into a toddler bed and she still sleeps half the night in her bed and half the night in mine. I was up for a week straight at night with her trying to insist that she stay in her room. She is my strongwilled child and had other planns. She will fall asleep in her bed but will not stay in it for the night. Good luck. It is so much easy to transition when they are still in there crib. IP: Logged |
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lisaaahubb Veteran  Posts: 415 |
posted 05-19-2003 08:08 AM
Hi and good morning. I have an 18 month old that is just now adjusting to sleeping thru the night in his crib. ANd just like clockwork every night at 4 a.m. he wakes and cries til i go and get him and bring him into our bed. I really think that it all started with me being so exhausted ( I have 3 other children as well) that I just couldn't function at night after being up 4 or 5 times and knowing that I would have to get up at 6 a.m. to get my other children off to school. It is a habit I wish I never started! I do believe that if you keep working at it everynight, letting your child stay in his or her crib for 5 more minutes each night it will work. They also say that you should keep going in every 5 minutes or so and keep reassuring them that they are o.k. and it is time to go to sleep. Of course, that didn't work at all with my little one, it basically just made him scream louder when i left the room. So sorry, I am probably not much help! IP: Logged |
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dtz Newbie Posts: 1 |
posted 07-19-2003 02:19 PM
I too am having sleep issues with the crib. Our son has occassionally slept with us (under 10 times). He is 5 months old and has been content to be put in the crib after a middle of the night feed. We recently went vacationing for 8 days and he slept with us. When we returned home, he wouldn't sleep in his crib at night. He will get to sleep, and the moment we lay him in his crib he arches his back and begins screaming. We went through the process of holding him until he fell asleep and placing him in the crib for about 12 times..... I've laid our pillowcases down for his sheet....I changed the sheet set and thought our scent would help him be comfy in his crib. I laid down a heating pad in his crib while feeding him so the spot would be warm when he was done...still back arches and screaming....I didn't think a habit could be formed in our 8 day vacation...HELP!!!! How do we transition back?????? IP: Logged |
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jfreson Junior Member Posts: 15 |
posted 07-20-2003 03:36 PM
I started by puting my dughter in her bed after she fell asleep with me and than I also put her in her bed for naps now that she slleeps through the night I just put her in her own bed and shes fine it takes time but they get used to there bed and wont sllep in yours mine dosnt anyway IP: Logged |
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jboon Senior Member Posts: 133 |
posted 07-20-2003 07:59 PM
Years ago, when my son was about 8-10 months old, he went through a similar period of time. A friend gave me an article from a parenting magazine that gave the following basic procedures for getting your baby to sleep alone, through the night, and in his/her own crib. This also works when a baby awakes in the middle of the night and does not need a diaper change or a feeding. It takes roughly 3-5 nights, so be prepared. Put your child down in the crib after your nightly routine, say good night, and leave the room. If/when the baby starts to cry, WAIT 5 minutes before going into the room. Then go in, reassure the baby that he's fine, tell him to go back to sleep, and LEAVE. Do not pick him up!!!!!!!!!! Repeat this procedure 3 times, waiting five minutes each time before returning to the baby's room. Then, increase the amount of time you wait before reentering your child's room to 10 minutes. Repeat 3 times and increase the interval to 15 minutes. Repeat 3 times and increase the interval to 20 minutes, then to 25 minutes, and finally to 30 minutes. The second night, begin the intervals at 10 minutes, the third night begin the intervals at 15 minutes, and so on. IT DOES WORK!!!!!!!!!! I've told friends about this over the years, and everyone of them has had positive results. It takes several nights, so be prepared...Good luck! IP: Logged |
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gillian30 Senior Member Posts: 84 |
posted 07-30-2003 07:38 PM
The technique described above is known as the "ferber method" and isn't really the great thing it's thought to be. Children cry for all sorts of reasons, and needing to be changed or fed aren't the only ones. They may be frightened or simply need physical connection. Studies have proven over the years that attending to your babies cries makes them connect much more to you emotionally, and grow faster and healthier physically. Not attending to them puts them at risk for a condition known as "failure to thrive", meaning you may not notice at first but they may not develop as rapidly either physically or emotionally as other babies. Let's face one major thing here...nature gave human beings the ability to make a crying sound so they could communicate before able to from words. By ignoring this instinct even for 15 minutes, you are going against nature, and that can't be good. Yes, your baby may eventually settle down, but at what price? Check out the wonderful books written by Dr. William Sears, who strongly advises the "attachment parenting" method instead. IP: Logged |
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Gabbi Senior Member Posts: 156 |
posted 08-12-2003 02:01 PM
I def agree it only took my 3 nights to get my daughter back sleeping in her bed, I let her cry it out. It was much easier than I expected. (Don't get me wrong I cried at her door!!) but she never cried past 5 mins and she just lays right down and goes to sleep now every night, that was worth those 3 nights, and believe me she doesn't feel any less loved!!! IP: Logged |
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TeTr0 Senior Member Posts: 111 |
posted 08-19-2003 03:40 PM
I had a similar problem with my daughter. She slept in the bed with me for the first 3 months, but then I moved back in with my mom & she had her own room, I would put her to bed in her crib but she would always wake up in the middle of the night. I would be so tired that I didn't want to stand over the crib helping her back to sleep so I would just bring her in the bed with me & my b/f (her daddy). But as she got older & bigger, the room in the bed got smaller! I started to put her to bed like I usually did, but when she would wake up I would wait a few minutes to see if she would fall back alseep... if not then I would go pat her back for a little while, but I WOULD NOT bring her in the bed with us. She is 23 months old now & sleeps thru the night in her crib. Once in a while we let her sleep with us - but for example, the other night we decided to let her sleep with us & she woke up at about 2 in the morning & was awake tossing & turning in the bed kinda wispering to us. She woke me up a few times & I told her, "Go back to sleep or you will go back in your crib." But it went on till about 4. Finally I told her that was it & I put her back in the crib for the rest of the night. She cried for a few minutes, but soon enough she fell asleep & I had to wake her up in the morning to get ready... she was a little cranky to say the least, but it was her fault for staying up like that! A good thing to try is have a toy that sings softly & has some lights on it (my daughter used to have a toy called 'Tad' that was a tadpole with a bib that you pressed it & the lights went off & it sang good-night songs) I would always leave it in the crib for her to fall asleep with, it just gave her something to do till she was tired enough to just fall asleep. His batteries died so now she has a huge stuffed 'Jimmy Neutron' pillow in her crib. It's great b/c when it's time for bed I say, "Ok, it's time for night-nights. Let's go up & put you & Jimmy to bed!" when she gets in the crib she gives him a hug & kiss, then covers him with some of the blankie! ~TeTr0 IP: Logged |
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Palms Member Posts: 51 |
posted 09-10-2003 03:21 PM
My child's doctor also advised against the Ferber method and told me it is not a good thing to let a baby cry. Why don't you try to move the crib next to your bed. That way it is not a new crib AND a new room for your child to get used to, instead your child can still see you and get used to the crib at the same time. Once the child is comfortable with the crib, you can try to move it in the other room. I can only advice new mothers not to even start letting the baby sleep in your bed, but in their cribs. IP: Logged |
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teresa26 Senior Member Posts: 161 |
posted 09-10-2003 03:51 PM
i agree with gillian. and some babies don't stop crying after a few minutes. my son was high needs and i have no doubt that if i'd left him in his crib, he'd have cried for hours. i couldn't bear to do that anyway. plus, having him in bed made breastfeeding so much easier. he transitioned from our bed to a bed in his own room when he was ready. wanted to add: when my friend moved her daughter to a crib, it helped that she put something in the crib with her that smelled like her. so she wore a stuffed animal in her shirt all day and put it in the crib with her daughter at night. the smell comforted her. she also warmed up the crib with a hot water bottle before putting her in there. for her, cosleeping just didn't work. her daughter didn't sleep well and ended up sleeping better in her crib. (it didn't get her to sleep through the night though and my friend got up several times a night to breastfeed.) [This message has been edited by teresa26 (edited 09-10-2003).] IP: Logged |
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kiki lou Member Posts: 68 |
posted 09-10-2003 08:32 PM
I always found it interesting that human beings are the only mammals who make an effort to be separated from their offspring at night. IP: Logged |
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spfnlf Newbie Posts: 1 |
posted 09-27-2003 06:42 PM
My daughter is 9 month old and she has been sleeping in our bed from birth, now I want to wean her and get her to sleep in her own crib. But she cries non stop. This last feeding the night time one. I don't know how to do it. I tried letting her sleep in our bed without feeding by bringing a bottle but no. So now I am trying the crib and weaning at the same time. Anyone, please give me input. Thank you IP: Logged |
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izadpana Junior Member Posts: 20 |
posted 09-28-2003 09:53 AM
There is one thing you could try, but it is an expensive investment. I saw on a website called safetysuperstore.com an item called the Mini Co-Sleeper it's number 4111-SLF but unfortunately it runs $239.00 CDN, but it's like a crip you attach to the side of your bed, so the baby is still sleeping with you but in his own bed....sort of graduating to a crib. Just a suggestion. [This message has been edited by izadpana (edited 09-28-2003).] [This message has been edited by izadpana (edited 09-28-2003).] IP: Logged |
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teresa26 Senior Member Posts: 161 |
posted 09-28-2003 08:29 PM
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it's pretty normal for babies to want to continue nursing during the night for quite some time. good luck. IP: Logged |
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