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Posted by Destie on April 17, 2000 at 23:00:41:

In Reply to: Wife/mother with ADD posted by Lisa on November 20, 1999 at 21:04:47:

: I am a 29 yr old woman with a 3 and 1 yr old. I was diagonosed with ADD 4 years ago(through testing) but thought that just knowing I had it would help me deal with it. I think I didn't want to deal with having something wrong with me. In fact right now even though I am typing on this message board and reading others that sound just like me, I really don't believe it and think I may just have some of the simtoms.My biggest problem is that my home is (as my husband put it) chaos. I work from morning to midnight trying to get it clean and it never works. I try to organize and every day I feel I am getting a little better. Then my husband comes home and tells me that things are not looking better. This week he was home sick every day. Thursday I went out to get my daughter her birthday present(I went out at 11:00 pm because her birthday was friday-why do I procrastonate so!). When I got home at 1:00 my husband had this weird look on his face. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was worried about me. I didn't understand. I asked about what and he said he had been looking back at the whole week and saw me not being able to concentrate, being lured in by my daughters tv shows,strring off into space, etc. etc. He said I didn't seem in control and even though I was working all day in the house it still was messy. I said "I've told you this is how it is for the past 9 years of our marriage Did you think I was lying?" He finally understands I'm not just messy and lazy. I do want a clean house! I've been crying for 2 days(not straight). I feel like a failure. I just want to be a good mother and wife. I asked my mom if she knew of someone that cleans house and she said"If you don't work you should be able to keep your house clean)" That's how I feel too, but my husband now is not getting mad for my disorganization but wants to help me.My mother is not mean she just is not understanding. How can she when I don't even understand myself. Somebody stop me-I'm starting to ramble on. Please, I need help I'm just don't know where to start.Please feel free to e-mail me too. Lisa

Lisa, Hi I am a 38 year old mother of 2 who has ADD. For years I could not understand what was wrong with me. I too have gone through almost the same symtoms as you. I never caught on to the fact that I had ADD until my pediatric doctor diagnosed both my children with ADD and the problems my children were having in school reminded me so much of myself as a child struggling through school. I went to a specialist with great embarressment (i dont know why I was embarressed) but I was. I was tested and he diagnosed me with ADD. I got a second opinion a little later and it was confirmed. So, I started taking the drug dextrostat. Dextrostat is a timed released amphitomine that has helped me greatly. Thats the only drug I take presently for my condition. I would recommend to you that you get yourself some help. You need counciling from a professional and you need medication. It will help you I promise. Dextrostat might not be your answer but there are alternative drugs and even all natural herbs from health food stores if your affraid of a drug that has a reputation for being addictive like dextrostat. Dextrostat is timed released so I only take one pill a day, early around 7am. If I take it too late in the day it keeps me up at night. (My body is tired but my brain wont shut off). I know your a good wife and mother I can tell from your letter. Keep your chin up and hang in there. Get yourself the help you need and organize your life away..Good luck to [email protected]

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