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Old 05-23-2010, 10:08 PM   #3
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Re: Girlfriend wants to find out what else is out there

This is a very unhealthy and very unfair situation. I think you need to stop being so passive and take control of your own happiness.

Obviously, an open relationship is not for you. You don't want to be in a relationship with a woman who is dating other men while you stay home alone eating your heart out, nor should you. That's very unhealthy and incredibly unfair to you. You both are young, and perhaps both of you need to see other people. But if you don't want to be in a relationship with her while she goes off and dates other men, then DON'T. You've heard the saying? If yo love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't it never was. You need to love her enough to let her go. She needs to be free to go and date other men if that's what she feels she needs to do, but she doesn't have the right to hang onto you and expect you not to date other women while she does it. That's called having your cake and eating it too, and that's just not how the world works. Besides, how much respsect do you think she can have for you if you are so willing to let her walk all over you like this, and sit at home while she dates and does who knows what with other guys, driving yourself crazy. If you let her go, then she'll be free to date other men and you can get her out of your mind and get on with your life, because if she's not "yours" anymore, then who she's kissing or making out with is none of your business. But as long she's coming back home to you, it IS your business, and that's what makes it so unhealthy.

If she doesn't feel it for you, letting her walk all over you will not make her stay. She'll find someone else whether you break up with her or not if that's what she's meant to do. You need to do what's best for you, and that's doing what's healthy, and that means stop making yourself crazy over who she's dating or kissing or whatever. Let her go do her thing, and accept that's what she needs to do, and you need to move on with your life, maybe reuniting with her someday, maybe not. But her dating around while hanging onto you while you sit at home alone going crazy is no good. that just needs to stop. Time to grow a pair and stand up for yourself by letting her go, with love and respect for what she needs to do, and respect for yourself as well. No hate, no anger, just letting go and accpeptance for how things have to be, at least for now.

Last edited by Larrylou'smom; 05-23-2010 at 10:09 PM.