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Old 10-13-2011, 08:51 AM   #83
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Re: I seem OK till it comes to Adult/Complex Conversations

Ignore what your parents say. Clearly they have this approach with many people and there's a reason your siblings live far away. Many adults have parents who are negative but your parents have taken it to a new level with you and everyone around them.

Perhaps respond with

"It's sad that you choose to live a life centered around negativity. I now have proof of learning problems I have always known existed. I accept the truth, I love you, but refuse to let what you think or say get me down. "

With everything you've said your parents have always been negative, argumentative, and unwilling to change. Add to that they chose to isolate themselves by not learning English after all these years.

If you could get them to meet with the specialists and with a translater other than you, then you've at least you've done what you can. But put their bullying behind you as it wont change. Thus your siblings are far away with strained relatiinshipwith your parents. Tell your siblings the results as well, if any offer to help you (live with them, assist with apartment, etc) seriously onsider it.

Be positive and limit parental interaction if you can.
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