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Old 01-03-2015, 05:29 AM   #2
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Re: My fiance is on drugs

First of all, I wonder how a man into drinks and drugs can ever keep a decent job. If he doesn't stop, he can lose it at any moment. I am afraid he really needs to go to rehab. The problem is: will he accept it? is he aware that he has a serious problem?

As for your relationship with him, you don't mention feelings (love, affection), except suspicions and jealousy from him, which may be due to his addiction.

My impression is that this relationship is not good for you. You are staying with him just because of the money he brings in? Are you unable to work because of your condition?

If you feel that this relationship can be salvaged, give him the ultimatum: if you don't go to rehab, we are over. While he is under treatment, give him the support he may need, and when he is cured, give yourselves another chance.

If you feel this relationship is doomed, then please break up and find another option for your own survival. There must be one...

Last edited by pendulum; 01-03-2015 at 05:31 AM.

 
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