It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Abuse Support Message Board

  • Was I sexually abused?

  • Post New Thread   Closed Thread
    Thread Tools Search this Thread
    Old 02-21-2005, 01:46 AM   #1
    Becky2000
    Inactive
    (female)
     
    Join Date: Feb 2005
    Location: Edmonton, AB, Canada
    Posts: 53
    Becky2000 HB User
    Was I sexually abused?

    Hi there

    I'm 28 and I grew up in a physically & emotionally abusive household, and now I am concerned that I was possibly sexually abused as a child as well.

    I grew up with my mother, who was physically & emotionally abusive. She was a single parent, and she had quite a few b/f until she married my step-dad when I was 11 and he used to physically abuse us. I used to see my bio father on & off until I was about 8 or 9, then only on special occassions and since I was 18, not at all. I also dont speak to my mother any more, and have a very impersonal relationship with my step-dad.

    I have never been very interested in sex, and recently I have absolutely no interest at all, and when I think about sexual relations I've had with anyone other than my two long-term boyfriends, I feel disgusting. And recently, the thought of anything to do with sex at all disgusts me.

    I was thinking about why this is the other night and something suddenly popped into my head that shocked and scared me. I remembered that when I was 11ish, I used to think someone was coming into my room while I was sleeping and having sex with me, but that for whatever reason, I didnt know. I used to prop my door before I went to sleep so that I could tell if anyone had opened it.

    Then in thinking about this, I realized some other things from my childhood that I never connected together. I used to be deathly afraid of men until I was about 18... I couldnt talk to them, and felt extremely uncomfortable around them. I also recalled that as a young child (4-7ish) I used to partake in some pretty "adult" sexual acts with a boy that lived across the alley from me. He was the same age as me, and most of the things we did, were my idea or mutual. My mum found out, and I got in big trouble and wasnt allowed to see him anymore. As well, during that time (age 4-7) I used to (I guess technically) masturbate at VERY inappropriate times, like during story time at school, at my mum's friends house... basically anytime, any place. I used to do it secretly, so no one knew... but I remember very clearly doing it.

    Since I was 16ish, I have dealt with depression (was severe, but is now good). When I was 19ish I became bulimic and still am, although it is under control. I also have anxiety issues and PTSD from an incident when I was 19 that involved my best friend being beaten into a coma & now has brain damage. I have been in counselling for some time, with my most significant improvement over the past year (I can honestly say I have my depression, anxiety, bulimia and PTSD under control). I always thought all these "issues" were contributed to my physically & emotionally abusive upbringing, which is true I'm sure, but the way I acted as a child in regards to sexuality, seems weird, and not normal. I asked my mum if she knew, or even suspected that I had been sexually abused. She said she couldnt think of anything, and didnt think any of the stuff I mentioned above was abnormal. But to me it doesnt seem normal at all.

    I am looking for any thoughts on this.... because I dont really know what to make of it all.

    Thanks alot
    Becky

    Last edited by Becky2000; 02-21-2005 at 01:54 AM.

     
    Sponsors Lightbulb
       
    Old 02-22-2005, 03:20 AM   #2
    acnescargirl2
    Junior Member
    (female)
     
    acnescargirl2's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Feb 2005
    Posts: 46
    acnescargirl2 HB User
    Re: Was I sexually abused?

    hi girl. u sound a lot like me. i slowly began remebering things too. like i blocked all that out. i always dressed ugly in baggy clothes. i cannot wear anything sexy or i feel disgusting.l and most sex acts make me feel disgusting. and i remmber clearly when i was 5 i was naked humping my sister who was 6 and rubibing butts naked with teh boy thru the fence. i started both incidents my mom spanked me both times . i felt disgusint and dirty. anway when i was 5 i had a severe UTI that kept recurring i recently had a flash back i was lying on the table and my dad put his red huge dick on the table and i remmber it hurting down thier . bad. this was around the same time that i had the UTI . i also rmember a lot when we were kids my dad would shuffle all of us kids into the living room to watch cartoons and hed wear overalls with nohting under it and masturbate in the chari while we were all a few feet away. a few times he flashed me all the way up until i was 16 and moved out. i feel disgusting about sex. i cannot dress sexy i feel so ****** off like i was robbed of that whole part of my life. i always had messy hair and ugly clothes i think i did it on purpose. i used to masturbate and picture some things that i should have had no way of knowing about i wonder if i saw porno when i was younger or something. anyway i used to think really perverted thoughts too. anyway i know defintly he did something to me i think he molested me. and my mom pisses me off she says im imagining things that didnt happen to get atteniton which is such bull ****. and she says it never happend . and she makes fun of how when roseanne bar came otu wit her repressed memories of sexual abuse saying it was BS and im actin just like her. its bad enough to be abused sexually but it hurts even more when people wont acknowledge what u went thru. anyway from wht ur saying it sure soudns like it to me. as time goes on i remmember more and more things. i bet if u think about it enough more things will come to your mind and give u a clearer picture of what has happend to you . i just wann cry and beat teh crap out of my parentws right about now. ugh

    Last edited by acnescargirl2; 02-22-2005 at 03:20 AM.

     
    Closed Thread

    Related Topics
    Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
    Sexually aggressive child? SocialWorks Children's Health 6 03-23-2010 09:43 AM
    how do you know when you were sexually abused? vvaneeden Abuse Support 4 08-31-2009 02:27 PM
    Was I sexually abused? Babiebkb123 Abuse Support 10 08-15-2007 09:39 AM
    Sexually abused in the past , lost boyfriend over it katte 28 Abuse Support 6 03-17-2005 07:52 PM
    Partner of Sexually Abused Male emma72 Abuse Support 1 10-17-2004 11:11 PM
    Sexually promiscuous child... what can this mean? ana_24 Parenting Issues 17 03-15-2004 05:02 AM




    Thread Tools Search this Thread
    Search this Thread:

    Advanced Search

    Posting Rules
    You may not post new threads
    You may not post replies
    You may not post attachments
    You may not edit your posts

    BB code is On
    Smilies are On
    [IMG] code is Off
    HTML code is Off
    Trackbacks are Off
    Pingbacks are Off
    Refbacks are Off




    Sign Up Today!

    Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

    I want my free account

    All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:04 AM.





    © 2020 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved.
    Do not copy or redistribute in any form!