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    Old 08-19-2004, 12:05 AM   #1
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    Need Adderall advice

    My husband suffers from ADD and has since he was a child. He started taking Adderall about six months ago. He's tried a variety of other medications over the years, got off of them completely for a while and is now back on.

    My concerns are:
    No sex drive
    Anger
    Heart Issues

    My husband is 28 years old and we've been married for about 14 months. We've only been intimate twice in the last nine months. It is currently one of the biggest issues in our marriage. I get the sense that it's a chore for him to have sex and he's always "to tired". I've been thinking for months he doesn't love me anymore, he's not attracted to me, he's having an affair, but now I'm wondering how much of this has to do with his Adderall. He's only been taking it for six months, but before that I was at the end of my pregnancy and he didn't feel comfortable having sex then either. We've been together over ten years and have never had a problem in this department.

    I have also noticed that he constantly seems to be on edge. He will fly off the handle at the slightest thing these days. He's always been the kind of person that you could never get a reaction out of let alone make visibly angry, but that is certainly not the case any more. Could this also have something to do with Adderall?

    Lastly, my husband's father side of the family has a history of heart disease. His Grandfather died in his fifties from a heart attack, his father has failed stress tests due to heart issues and he has numerous aunts and uncles that have had major heart conditions. I am concerned even after the little I do know about Adderall and heart problems. He himself has never been diagnosed with any heart problems, but rarely ever sees a doctor to even know. He mentioned after coming home from the gym the other night that he noticed a kind of strange fluttering in his chest. This must have concerned him to bring it up, because that is unlike him. Any advice in this department?

    Please help anybody who knows anything about this drug

    Thanks

     
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    Old 08-19-2004, 10:11 AM   #2
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    Re: Need Adderall advice

    I don't know much about this medication either. I do know that I have seen signs in my sons behavior lately. He started taking it last Sept. Well over the summer he has become aggressive. He's always thrown tantrums but this is worst then that. He's starting to hit his little sister now. I'm seriously thinking about seeing if his doctor will change his meds. Sorry if this didn't help you any.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 11:30 AM   #3
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    i take 20 mg adderall xr in the morning and 10 mg regular adderall when that wears off if needed. i know that low sex drive is a common side effect of adderall, but i havent experienced it. with regards to the anger issue however, i wonder if your husband is on name brand adderall or generic? mood swings are a side effect in general, and i have experienced that. with my adderall xr, (which only comes brand name as of yet) i never really have bad mood swings or get upset. however, for a short period of time i had to get generic regular adderall because my pharmacy was out of the brand name and i needed it for class that night. there was a huge difference. my roommate commented on how much weight i'd lost and i started crying because i couldnt wear my favorite belt anymore. i spilled the ice and i cried. i would just get so frustrated with things when i came off the adderall it seemed like my only option was to scream or cry. if you so much as looked at me the wrong way, i'd either bite your head off or start crying. 20 minutes later, i'd be making fun of myself for overreacting, and be back to my normal happy self. i will never again get the generic medication, and since i've gone back to the name brand, i havent experienced mood swings at all.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 11:56 AM   #4
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    After reading your post my first thought was, this is a porn addiction. I could be way off base, but. Gave you looked at his PC? Does he stay up after you go to sleep, Think about his computer habits.

    If it is porn don't freak out, porn seems to be a basic need of men. Since people learned to draw men have been drawing porn. Porn exists in every culture.

    ADD meds make me randy as all get out.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 01:31 PM   #5
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    I don't think my husband has an addiction to porn at all. He goes to bed before I do everynight (around 10:00) and I finally get to bed at 1:00 am or so. He uses our computer about once a week to look at airplane parts or something car related. He's not that computer literate, so he's constantly asking me for help just to navigate the internet. He doesn't have any porn magazines at home either. His time away from home can always be accounted for as well.

    He works 50+ hours a week (yes they're scheduled work hours), so when he says he's tired he probably is. I'm pretty sure he's not saying that so he can run off and have relations with our computer, magazine or t.v. If it was porn addiction that wouldn't explain why we had a normal sex life for over nine years until fairly recently.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 02:28 PM   #6
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    OK, I was wrong - I'm sorry. I don't understand why a 28 year old man loses interest in sex. But I don't believe it's the adderall. He might have certain sexual dysfunctions, but not for 6 months. I'm sure, now that you are focused on this, you'll figure it out. Things always seem to work out in the long run. So don't worry too much.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 03:49 PM   #7
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    You mention you quite recently had a baby, I think this could be significant to the situation you describe as having a baby is a big change and very tiring and of course this can seriously affect the sex life! It's quite normal for there to be a lull in libido for either or both parents when you are exhausted in the early months. Is this your first child? You might need to look no further than that for the explanation for the lack of sex life.

    Can you get a sitter so you get an evening to yourselves to be romantic without the worry of baby waking and needing attention?

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 04:22 PM   #8
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    Just married I was wondering if you read the side affects of what the adderall medication was. Maybe your husband could swith to Strattera and see if theres any improvement there.

     
    Old 08-19-2004, 06:19 PM   #9
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    I have read that low sex drive can be a side effect of Adderall. I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced this, or if this was one of those rare side effects.

    Yes, we did have a baby five months ago tomorrow. This is our second baby and honestly she's been so easy to take care of. She's been sleeping through the night since she was five weeks old and is generally happy most of the time. If there is something she needs I'm usually the one that takes care of it, so I'm not sure why he would be tired from having a baby in the house.

     
    Old 08-20-2004, 02:06 AM   #10
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    Mood swings are common when stimulants wear off, but mood swings and irritability when they are working can be a big pointer towards possible Bipolar, especially if he has uncharacteristic aggressive or even violent outbursts and persiods of feeling low.
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    Old 08-20-2004, 09:14 AM   #11
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    Justmarried,
    You said that your husband work 50 hours or so a work each week. Has he always worked this much or is this a change? My husband is tired alot also. No he's not on medication its because of the job change. I used to think he was the energizer bunny who just kept going and going. He used to work from an average week of 62 hours. On an off week he was out in the field and oviously it was more hours. Now on an average week he works about 126 hours a week. He's a drill instructor in the army. He has to get up at 3 :15 in the morning. Be at work by 4:30 and ususally doesn't get done until 8:30 at night sometimes 10. On Saturday & Sunady he usually works till 6:30 or 7 at night. Our sex life has went down since he became a drill sgt. But I don't know I'm still sticking in here I know its hard but I'm sure you love your husband very much and you would probably do anything for him. Maybe you should talk to him about having some blood test done and see what the results are. I'm headed to my son's doctor to do the same thing. My son is such a sweet boy. And then this summer it was like who is that kid. When the medication was wearing off or if he skipped a dose he was a little terror. He never hit his brother or sister before but it was like he didn't like the fact that his sister wouldn't come inside one day so he popped her on the head. Well I hope that your Husband starts to feel more like himself soon. Take care & good luck.

     
    Old 08-21-2004, 01:27 PM   #12
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    Originally Posted by Justmarried0620
    My husband suffers from ADD and has since he was a child. He started taking Adderall about six months ago. He's tried a variety of other medications over the years, got off of them completely for a while and is now back on.

    My concerns are:
    No sex drive
    Anger
    Heart Issues

    My husband is 28 years old and we've been married for about 14 months. We've only been intimate twice in the last nine months. It is currently one of the biggest issues in our marriage. I get the sense that it's a chore for him to have sex and he's always "to tired". I've been thinking for months he doesn't love me anymore, he's not attracted to me, he's having an affair, but now I'm wondering how much of this has to do with his Adderall. He's only been taking it for six months, but before that I was at the end of my pregnancy and he didn't feel comfortable having sex then either. We've been together over ten years and have never had a problem in this department.

    I have also noticed that he constantly seems to be on edge. He will fly off the handle at the slightest thing these days. He's always been the kind of person that you could never get a reaction out of let alone make visibly angry, but that is certainly not the case any more. Could this also have something to do with Adderall?

    Lastly, my husband's father side of the family has a history of heart disease. His Grandfather died in his fifties from a heart attack, his father has failed stress tests due to heart issues and he has numerous aunts and uncles that have had major heart conditions. I am concerned even after the little I do know about Adderall and heart problems. He himself has never been diagnosed with any heart problems, but rarely ever sees a doctor to even know. He mentioned after coming home from the gym the other night that he noticed a kind of strange fluttering in his chest. This must have concerned him to bring it up, because that is unlike him. Any advice in this department?

    Please help anybody who knows anything about this drug

    Thanks
    Anger, aggressiveness, and mood swings are stimulant side effects. My nephew had to get off Adderall for mood swings. He no longer has mood swings since he's been off it, so it's a sure thing that is what caused it. Latest news on stimulants like Adderall is that they are seeing a connection to the development of depression.

    I'm sure it's the drug, not your marriage. But, with these situations could come problems that cause divorces.

    Also, with all that heart disease looming in the family, I can't believe a doctor would prescribe a stimulant, since they are very hard on the heart and circulatory system. But it seems ADD is the latest push for profit on meds, and they obviously put ADD as more important than heart disease possibilities....sort of medicate the problem now and not worry about the future. I've heard of some people having heart attacks at young ages because of stimulants.

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    Old 08-22-2004, 01:19 PM   #13
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    Your husband sounds very depressed to me. If he is his stimulant medication is probably aggrevating it. Stongly encourage him to see his doctor.

     
    Old 07-20-2005, 06:28 AM   #14
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    Just Married,
    Been on aderrall for a while now..it is pretty safe to say that your husband isn't having an affair! unless this pill works differently in everybodies case, aderrall almost kills your sex drive..i used to want it all the time, now it's not my top priority..i would say since your married that if he is willing that he talks to his doctor and get on something else that does the same thing...u might have heard this before, but u might see a nutritionist and have him cut out certain foods and sugars for 2-3 weeks and c what happens..thats what i do when i get off while i'm not in school and it works almost better than the pill itself!!!
    good luck with ya!

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    Old 08-03-2005, 12:50 AM   #15
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    Yeah, I will have to say sex drive is effected by adderall. But, 9 months is a little extreme. I don't think he would have a desire for an affair either, due to the medication. Adderall does engross an individual into their work some times. People can become obsessive in their work while on Adderall. I think that is a good possibility, and I can say the tendency once the medication peaks what ever your doing at that time you can get caught up in it. It's sort of a supporting stimuli (the work.) Even after you complete the work you tend to dwell in thinking about it or stay in that frame of mind. A sort of tunnel vision type of thinking, switching gears to another activity is unwanted, or the motivation is second rate. Especially when it envolves emotional performance.

     
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