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    Old 06-16-2006, 05:03 AM   #1
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    Pretty sure I'm borderline alcoholic

    Hey everyone,

    I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with my triggers.

    I have been struggling with alcohol abuse for about 4 years, and am currently working on recovering. I started using alcohol to "feel better" during a time when my husband was going through some serious physical health and depression issues. It was too much for me to handle, so I wanted to numb it out.

    I am too ashamed to do anything public about it like joining alanon, even though I know I probably should. I used to drink myself into a stupor most nights, and now I am not doing that (I haven't for several months now). I am still drinking frequently, but not in as great a quantity. Nevertheless, my biggest danger zone is between 4 and 7 p.m., usually when I'm making dinner. I've grown accustomed to having a glass (or more) of wine while I cook, to relax me and give me that wonderful buzz. But usually within a couple hours, I'm already regretting the drink because I'm feeling sleepy and cottonmouthed. More than anything, I just want to be free of this.

    I know that dealing with triggers is very personal, and that everyone has different solutions. But I am just looking for some suggestions. Is there anything I can do when I am making dinner so that I can avoid having a drink? I know that the biggest thing I can do is get rid of the alcohol in the house. But then a new trigger develops, which is driving by the liquor store or grocery store on my way home from work. In the past, I have even "made up" a reason to go to the grocery store at dinner time ("I forgot this one ingredient that I absolutely have to have to make the food!") Please help! Any suggestions are appreciated.

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    Old 06-16-2006, 06:14 AM   #2
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    Well, alanon wouldn't really be your program anyway, AA might be. Alanon is for friends and victims of alcoholics (although you might fit that scenario too). I found wonderful help from AA for my drinking problems and NEVER felt public embarrassment or anything remotely like that. I think it's great you realize your potential for being an alcoholic, that's a huge first step and one that will carry you far into recovery if you choose to. AA is very anonymous as the name implies and you can sneak in a meeting just as easy as you can sneak in a drink. There is no sense of embarrassment there, only loving people that have faced exactly what you have and are dealing with it on a day by day basis. I know you said you weren't ready for something like that Earlybird, but for me it was the only way I could quit drinking 14 years ago. I hate to be harsh, but if you don't go there soon, you'll probably end up there eventually in far worse shape than you are now. It's something to consider, it saved my life.


    Old 06-16-2006, 09:57 PM   #3
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    Honesty... it will set you free earlybird. Be totally honest with everybody that you talk to about this and you'll see how many other people are just like you. When you open up, it makes others feel comfortable to do the same and hence we can begin to recover knowing others have face indentical problems/issues. You'll be fine, just be honest ESPECIALLY with yourself.

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