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Wendy88 10-09-2012 03:10 AM

Upset. Potentially serious family situation. Handling it sober
Hi all.... :(
So I have under a week of no pills, on purpose, to see how the Provigil works with no Roxys stepping on it. It's all good, or was til
The below came up.
I just found out my mom, who has a rare cancer but is doing fine for several years just got an iffy petscan report. A spot in her kidney that is cancer. Not the same kind. It's too early to tell whats up. She gets petscans every 3 months..., and she got her results today but sees the doc this week.
I know I can post on the cancer board, but until I hear facts from her doctor, I can't hear others stories that may be bad. I'm very close to my mom/ family. They are lovely people.
All I wanted to do was get super stoned (weed) tonight, but I knew it might make things worse in my mind, and that wasnt the answer. Instead I took my anti anxiety pills, as prescribed and tried to keep my racing thoughts under control.
I read a few medical journals which have me some hope (I know I shouldn't have gone on line at all, but I gave in. I won't look again.
Anyway, I'm not religious, but I do believe in good
vibes and good healing thoughts being put out into the universe. I'll take it all, actually, even prayers. Who am i to say what may help?
My mom is so good and has been through so much with hardly a complaint. She deserves to see me married, to see me in a fantastic place in my life, and most Importantly, just a longer period of no stress, no surgery, just time to enjoy her family, the trips my dad wants to take her on etc. Everything.
Please keep her .in your thoughts and prayers, in whatever way that means to
You. Ill know more later in the week, but it's never too early to get those vibes out there. It's so scary when u don't know what you are dealing with.
Thanks for listening to a slightly off topic situation. Hopefully my ability to stay sober tonight keeps this on topic.
Thank you all,

Phoenix 10-09-2012 05:07 AM

Re: Upset. Potentially serious family situation. Hamdling itsober
Hello there W

Hang in there and hold on,like the cat that instinctually uses its claws as a means of gripping onto things.

Please don't jump to conclusions at this point in time;it may further compromise your already delicate situation.

I will continue to pray for your mother,as I attend mass on a daily basis.

You don't need to be religious to be spiritually motivated. Sure, it's part of the enlightened experience there's much more.

The spirit is that driving force which directs a person towards the positive,even though there is freedom of choice.
It's that part of you that can be viewed internally and used as a barometer for righteous living......In my honest opinion.

Your mother knows how you feel about her.

The thing here is,despite how things are going on with you personally,you still have time for your mother and her concerns,which is commendable.
Please don't try to thrust additional responsibilities on yourself at this time.
What I mean to state is that marriage and other things of that sort are major life choices which yo may or may not be able to honor fully at this point in time.

The timing just isn't right and when it becomes so,you'll know it,your family will know it and all others concerned will feel it also.

Please don't feel you have to rush into things.
More often than not,when a person rushes into things blindly,it creates further chaos.

Your friend

Wendy88 10-09-2012 03:51 PM

Re: Upset. Potentially serious family situation. Hamdling itsober
Thanks Phoenix,
You are correct, about it all.
Her doc today isn't an expert in the kidney area but said the petscan us one technicians opinion and it needs a specialists before we take that leap. So she will see her other doctors, as per the course after a scan, and also the kidney specialist whom is capable of shining light on the situation.
In the meantime , I'm going to keep myself busy.

Thank so much for your words Phoenix.

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