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Old 08-16-2014, 02:12 AM   #1
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Unhappy Young looks have led to deep depression.

Hi! So, I'm a 22 year old female that looks much younger than her age. Because of this, I've been incredibly depressed for as long as I can remember. I hate going to restaurants for fear of being handed a children's menu, and have broken down in tears when it's happened in the past. People always ask my age, and most assume I'm 11 or 12. I try to hide it with makeup, but even when I was dressed up last week - in an elegant dress, hair done, makeup on, nails done.. people guessed that I was much younger. When I work at conventions people don't tend to take me seriously, and I feel like I'm losing the opportunity to make friends due to people thinking that I'm outside of my age range. I don't know what to do anymore. On my 21st birthday, one of my friends was talking to some guys in line, trying to get us drinks - and she said it was my birthday. They openly mocked me, saying there was no way I'd just turned 21. Every time I go out drinking with friends I get mocked or poked at. At the gym last week, my boyfriend (who is 29) and I went in for the first time (just got new memberships)the man at the front desk referred to me as his daughter. It's extremely, extremely embarrassing. I don't have the body of an 11 year old, it's my face that causes people to make assumptions. I'm in shape, am a C cup, quite short.. but have big eyes, a round face, cheeks and a button nose.

If I hear "you'll love it when you're 40" one more time, I'll break down into tears. These are supposed to be the best years of my life, and I feel as though I can't fully live them.

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Old 08-16-2014, 03:22 AM   #2
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Re: Young looks have led to deep depression.

I saw a little girl on TV the other night, and she was giving a speech before Congress on behalf of her people(Guatemalan I believe). When you looked at her, she was so young, yet the impact was so strong because of the words that she spoke and the respect people felt for her was immense. All of a sudden, it didn't matter what age she was because her message captured everyone's attention.
While people's initial reaction to you may be the wrong one, once they get to know you, you can have your own strong impact on people. You can choose to be whoever you want to be. By the way you hold yourself, and the maturity you display, people will respect you for that and realize who you really are, not just a face or a preconceived idea.
Other people who choose to make immature jokes are not people who you need to worry about. Those same people probably make jokes if you're too tall, too fat, etc.
I know this may be little consolation to you about your appearance, but unfortunately we're stuck with who we are. Otherwise I would have gotten rid of my face a long time ago!

 
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Old 06-08-2016, 10:40 PM   #3
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Re: Young looks have led to deep depression.

Hello, Moonlight and Kanded, I'm new to this board, so am looking forward to participating sometimes. I was interested in the "looks" and "depression" topics in your heading, Moonlight. And Kanded, our encouraging remarks are very good. Well, Moonlight, perhaps you can come up with a snazzy reply when people treat you like a child. More about the snazz in a minute...but I do want to say that I looked very young for a very long time. People "parented" me and treated me like I was incompetent. That went on till I was in my late 30s or early 40s. I think that the "older generation" in whatever era that may be, look upon young people that way, unless they are, so to speak, "old souls" or highly bossy or something. In my case, I'm 74, and people tell me I look young. Ha! Well, (at least when I was 73 -- don't know yet about 74 since I had m birthday only 6 weeks ago....!!!) a lot of people would say, "you look SO YOUNG!" A few years earlier people told me I looked like I was in m "early 50s." That was when I was over 70 Now, I'm hearing "I thought you were in your early 60s" I'm feeling like I'm losing my looks. I have dark circles under my eyes and they seem to be getting darker. But anyway, back to the snazzy remark -- Whenever someone tells me I look so young, I retort with good humor (and laughing), "Well if that's true, how come people always offer me a seat on the bus???!!"

 
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