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Breezin 01-27-2020 12:27 PM

Dementia help
 
My wife's father lost his spouse about 2 years ago. She must have been covering for him with some memory issues he had, because we never noticed anything wrong. Shortly after she passed my wife started noticing that he would forget recent conversations they had and she has had to make sure he keeps up on bills and taxes. It seems as though every time she now sees him, about once every 2 months, he is not only worse, but his problems are quickly escalating.

So now she at the point of trying to convince him that he has some memory issues, but he is in denial. He doesn't get upset, but just says he disagrees and that he is fine. Our main problem is that he is alone. He has a couple of brothers who now know of his problem, but while they are closer to him, they too live at least a half hour away. My wife has a sister who lives further away than we do.

Does anyone know of any resources my wife can reach out to for how she can convince him he needs help? It would help if we were seeing him constantly, but that is not possible with the distance and other family obligations of our own. Our first priority for now is to convince him he needs someone to keep an eye on him, but for now he won't hear of it. Thanks.

MSNik 01-27-2020 01:07 PM

Re: Dementia help
 
His primary doctor can refer him to a memory or Dementia specialist to preform a memory test which will give you an idea of whether he truly needs help or not...maybe if he hears it from his doctor he will be more inclined to listen?

The issue is getting him to his doctor for a full physical and allowing someone in the room with him.

Breezin 01-27-2020 01:49 PM

Re: Dementia help
 
[QUOTE=MSNik;5500514]His primary doctor can refer him to a memory or Dementia specialist to preform a memory test which will give you an idea of whether he truly needs help or not...maybe if he hears it from his doctor he will be more inclined to listen?

The issue is getting him to his doctor for a full physical and allowing someone in the room with him.[/QUOTE]


Thanks. That was actually a plan my wife had, was to see if she could go to a doctors appointment with him. I am just not sure how he would take the issue being brought up there, as I am sure he wouldn't want her to go with him if he knew she was going to bring it up. One of his brothers was going to spend a day with him. I am sure he will ask the same question twice, or otherwise give his brother an opportunity to say he too sees a problem. I think it would help if he hears it from someone other than my wife. Thanks again.


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