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Old 08-21-2008, 08:04 PM   #16
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Re: Dad's new oddities...

Little Deb,

Honey, I know how hard this is. I have had to do it too. I have cried enough tears to overflow the Mississippi. For you, the task will be easier, your daddy won't know when you put him in a home. My father was still cognizant when he was put in the AZ wing by an evil nurse. And I couldn't do a d#mn thing about it. The guilt and pain are still there and it will be year the end of Sept that he p[assed. The only good thing is htat he was with Momma when he passed and we had convinced him that he was there to help her along.

So yeah, I know what you are facing, and I know how hard it has been for you. And we have been worrying about you you brat! But I know that it is hard to see Dad through clear glasses, not the rose colored lenses that we wear in hopes that some miracle has happened overnight and that the brilliant man that raised the dome and you has returned. I know that you grieve for your father that was and you grieve for your family that was and you grieve because legally you cannot beat the living crap out of you brother. And you wonder how your father could have sired him as well as you, and you wonder how human compassion can be missing from the son who was raised in the same family as you. And you hope that a very large truck comes by and runs him over when he is crossing the street. Yeah, I know, it's not easy.

Your hubby and kids love your dad, but it is too painful and scary for them to see him as he is now. They want to remember him as the FIL and grand father that was before-when he was coherant and fun and loving. My own boys suffered so with this-it broke my heart when they could barely spend the weekend with my parents. I knew they were still the same people who adored them to the ends of the earth, why couldn't they see that? So, try to cut them some slack before you cut off their arms. It's hard on them too.

My dear, I am glad you returned. We were all so worried that we had pushed you too hard or too fast. But you seemed to be standing on the brink of an abyss where your family was going to disintergrate because of the stress of daddy...

So, Little deb. Time has come dear. Start lookin, Daddy can have some of his "stuff" with him in a NH and you will be better off for it..and so will your family. Trust us on this one.

I'm glad you have returned I have been praying for your safe return...Jill

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