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Old 06-13-2012, 09:04 PM   #1
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Update and thanks

Back in March I was at my wits end and couldn't sleep because we were dealing with trying to move my MIL to an Alzheimer's care facility and we had so much opposition from know it all family members who had opinions but offered no help. So many of you offered so much helpful support. In the middle of the night!!! I was feeling so alone and suddenly there were so many of you relating similar experiences and I was so appreciative.
To update we did manage to move my MIL. It wasn't easy by any means. The family members were still not helpful. But we did what was necessary because she needed the care. I am pleased to say she has surprisingly settled into the care facility. She is getting along. She is social. She goes on outings. Not everything has been perfect but I would have never thought that she would actually be able to manage in that new environment. Most days she thinks she works there. She used to be a nurse so she mostly helps others and thinks it is a private hospital! I say whatever makes her happy. She has a life now.
Thank you all for your support when I needed it

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It is good to know that your MIL likes the nursing home.
My FIL is the same - he thought he is working in the NH. As a former doctor in his home country and a researcher who studied brain, he has a perfect place for work! So your MIL works as a nurse is the same idea!

It is a good start. Now my FIL likes this nursing home. The only thing is they all think the patients or other residents are sicker and they themselves are not.
My FIL would mock at other people who sleep at activities, but now he sleeps 70% each day!

Don't worry about other family members - if they are not caregivers to MIL, they are just talking. Talk does nothing for caregiving. If they see that MIL likes the home and is "working", they will understand.

Good job!


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Old 06-14-2012, 06:58 AM   #3
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Dillinda... it is always encouraging to hear a good update!! I don't think there is anything easy about dementia and the things we must do for our loved ones... but with a little support and help it is doable. I am thrilled that your MIL has adjusted so well. You are right, it doesn't matter where she thinks she is as long as she is content where she is Kudos to you for having the strength and perseverance to see this through. I hope there are many more good days for you and your MIL.

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