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    Old 04-07-2009, 09:24 AM   #1
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    I have total control over my anger--except for when my boss acts like an idiot--which is all day long. He follows me from room to room. He rifles through my desk. He micromanages my every step. He spies on me, talks loudly on the phone and makes my life hell. The job is otherwise tolerable. (I don't make enough to live on, but otherwise it is ok.)

    I feel like I am going to lose control against him one of these days. What should I do?

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    Old 04-07-2009, 11:09 AM   #2
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    Re: HATE My Boss

    Start looking for a new job. Life is too short to put up with an idiot in it. It is not a good time to be out of work, so don't lose it with him; hang in there, and keep looking. Sera.

     
    Old 04-07-2009, 11:50 AM   #3
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    I have total control over my anger--except for when my boss acts like an idiot--which is all day long. He follows me from room to room. He rifles through my desk. He micromanages my every step. He spies on me, talks loudly on the phone and makes my life hell. The job is otherwise tolerable. (I don't make enough to live on, but otherwise it is ok.)

    I feel like I am going to lose control against him one of these days. What should I do?

    It's so easy to read your post and make a comment like " Leave ". or " Ask yourself why your putting up with the issues that are stressors, that would send you, to lose control and end up leaving with a tarnish on your emp. record . "

    Yet on the other hand, maybe, just maybe, your boss has had some really bad past emps...it doesnt' nessesarily need to be his past emps. It could be his whole life before you were employed there... he feels he needs to gaurd his investment and that is partly you... In not understanding why someone does what they do...we come to our own understanding..leading to what your saying...coming to conculsions that could possibly not be founded if we understood the "WHY". Is it to uncomfortable, to ask why your boss does what he does? or Is it that your unable to ask without showing anger at this point?
    Unfortunately, your micromanaging him and his actions... your boss can't even breath without your mind asking him not to...hahahaha ~ ~ hoping you can find some humor in that last comment....anywho, It's under your skin now...Myself, I usually wait for the last straw... sometimes for some that is too late and keeping in mind you don't want to burn bridges. Possible recommendations for future opps...

    ~ ~ There is not an employment opp. out in the world, that combines people from every aspect; that each of us wouldn't at anytime begin the irritations, of people being around people with all our personal querks. in a work enviornment 9 or so hours a day... No job out there ~ ~

    Wishes of Good Luck in your decisions...

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    Old 04-07-2009, 12:17 PM   #4
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    I think there is more information that is missing from this? Why do you think the boss is doing what he is doing? Did you ask him why he is doing all these things...doesn't seem logical for him to hire someone and then follow them around without him suspecting you of something? It is hard to say what's up without knowing more information of what kind of job this is ...how long you have worked there and did you do something you are not suppose to do?

     
    Old 04-09-2009, 09:15 AM   #5
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    He does this to everyone. He is like OCD or something. I have worked here a year.

     
    Old 04-09-2009, 09:20 AM   #6
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    well then you should know not to take it personally.......
    just deal with it

     
    Old 04-09-2009, 09:25 AM   #7
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    It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your personal space. He makes me feel "violated" if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, there are many others here who also hate what he does.

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    Old 04-09-2009, 09:51 AM   #8
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    Re: HATE My Boss

    well there are idiots everywhere in this world. If you quit a job because you work with an idiot, you will just find another one at the next job.....
    that's not the answer, you just have to find a way to not let it affect you.

     
    Old 04-09-2009, 10:26 AM   #9
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    I agree. You'll probably find somebody just like him at a different company! I've worked for the same company for the past 15 years and if there's one thing I've learned it's this: If you stick around long enough you'll see everybody leave. I've had bosses I absolutely abhored and sooner or later they quit or moved to different departments. So long as your boss isn't the company owner he may move on someday.

     
    Old 04-09-2009, 10:29 AM   #10
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    It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your personal space. He makes me feel "violated" if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, there are many others here who also hate what he does.



    So.......... With That..... Written..........


    It seems the Boss is the conversation of the day.... as you all gather around the Water Cooler expressing your own issues about what this Boss does..or doesn't do or is or could have this, that & the hell of OCD.. Knitting all of your unfortunate - unedifying yuck... Feeding into each other the MUCK and MIRE ..... You've all become !


    Sorta seems, you all aren't busy enough...!


    Personal space ? Its at home, in your car; It's not at work...
    Your Boss has to pay for every moment you waste. Your costing him $$$$

    Thankful, I'm not your Boss !!!! I don't babysit at work...
    I'd want to know where you are and what your doing every moment too. Simply to verify why your getting paid...&... Why am I paying you to loiter.


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    Old 04-09-2009, 05:10 PM   #11
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    Re: HATE My Boss

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    It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your personal space. He makes me feel "violated" if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, there are many others here who also hate what he does.



    So.......... With That..... Written..........


    It seems the Boss is the conversation of the day.... as you all gather around the Water Cooler expressing your own issues about what this Boss does..or doesn't do or is or could have this, that & the hell of OCD.. Knitting all of your unfortunate - unedifying yuck... Feeding into each other the MUCK and MIRE ..... You've all become !


    Sorta seems, you all aren't busy enough...!


    Personal space ? Its at home, in your car; It's not at work...
    Your Boss has to pay for every moment you waste. Your costing him $$$$

    Thankful, I'm not your Boss !!!! I don't babysit at work...
    I'd want to know where you are and what your doing every moment too. Simply to verify why your getting paid...&... Why am I paying you to loiter.

    WOW. Sounds like the anger mgmt board is not the place to ask for help--as you are very angry. Nice reply.
    LOL.

     
    Old 04-10-2009, 01:11 PM   #12
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    Re: HATE My Boss

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    I have total control over my anger--except for when my boss acts like an idiot--which is all day long. He follows me from room to room. He rifles through my desk. He micromanages my every step. He spies on me, talks loudly on the phone and makes my life hell. The job is otherwise tolerable. (I don't make enough to live on, but otherwise it is ok.)

    I feel like I am going to lose control against him one of these days. What should I do?

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JewelryJulie View Post
    He does this to everyone. He is like OCD or something. I have worked here a year.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JewelryJulie View Post
    It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your personal space. He makes me feel "violated" if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, there are many others here who also hate what he does.



    Interestingly enough on your first post ~ to this last post; (quoted above).

    Just as the posts earlier states: ( quoted below )

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    I think there is more information that is missing from this? Why do you think the boss is doing what he is doing? Did you ask him why he is doing all these things...doesn't seem logical for him to hire someone and then follow them around without him suspecting you of something? It is hard to say what's up without knowing more information of what kind of job this is ...how long you have worked there and did you do something you are not suppose to do?

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JewelryJulie View Post
    WOW. Sounds like the anger mgmt board is not the place to ask for help--as you are very angry. Nice reply.
    LOL.
    Your very welcome for the " Nice reply" LOL's back at ya ~ how sweet...
    It's not Anger ~ ~ as in AARRGggggg It's Passion...!!!!

    80% of Work Force doesn't "know" the difference between Work and Play. It's good you do understand.

    " This board is not the place to ask for help." That's any easy exit. You are being helped !! It's not accourding to what You Want to Hear or Read even Personally Ponder.
    In the long and short of it all ~ ~
    Are you sure your not looking for: Validation to carry on with the " Hate my Boss " theme. ? ? ? and Water Cooler Talk !!!





















     
    Old 04-10-2009, 01:43 PM   #13
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    I really do think you have anger problems NOT PASSION PROBLEMS. If one reads through my 3 posts, one would see that I am answering what was asked of me that you then posted below it out of order.

    Why does he do that- is answered when I state that "I think he is OCD". Perhaps you are unaware of what that is, or its symptoms, but it can be highly frustrating to deal with if you don't suffer from it yourself.

    You assume that we "gather around the water cooler" discussing this boss, but as a matter of fact, I wanted to know if it was just happening to me, or also to others. THUS I ASKED. You also assumed that I must be the problem. Assuming is a great way of NOT KNOWING THE FACTS.

    You are jumping to conclusions and picking a scab. You must have bloodlust, as this is a place where you are SUPPOSED TO BE able to ask for help and guidance--ie "how do you deal with a difficult person? Do you have suggestions?"

    AS WITH ALL OTHER ISSUES ON THESE BOARDS, THE POINT IS ASKING FOR AND HOPEFULLY RECEIVING ADVISE--NOT BEING SNICKERED AT AND TAUNTED.

    You are VERY rude and you don't (?) realize it--I am hoping.

    You have no idea what I do for a living, or what I am paid. The shear amount of assumptions, taunts and just general "f u" attitude in your posting is really quite obnoxious. Do me a favor--and yourself one--please stop replying to my posting, as you are not helpful, but are instead testing my ability to deal with rudeness and ignorance.
    THANK YOU.

     
    Old 04-16-2009, 09:07 PM   #14
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    I have to agree with Julie. She didn't come here to be attacked. Btw, I totally understand what you are going thru. Where I work, we have 6 managers on duty at once, all of them with a different title and responsibility. There's always someone breathing down our necks and they pick on the ones who are doing their jobs correctly and in a timely fashion and those who goof off are their buddies. I've worked there for a little over 5 years and have learned to kill them with kindness. I think it finally started to get on their nerves and now they leave me alone. Hope things get better for ya and try not to lose it on the job. They're so hard to find these days so hold on as long as you can.

     
    Old 04-17-2009, 11:57 AM   #15
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    JewleryJulie ~ ~ All whom read this thread...

    I'm sending You a Deep Heartfelt Appology for what and how I posted...
    There are, no words to write that express my Embarrassment and Personal Disgrace with Respect to You and All whom vest their moment of trust in this and these boards.


    I so, do hope you find Solice in the Sincerity of this simi public Appology


    In reviewing and considering what you'd written about the anger... I looked in the mirror ~ ~


    I am






     
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