View Full Version : Worried About my MUM! :(

12-10-2004, 07:13 PM
Hello everyone!

If you can give me some advise how to help my mother it will be apperciated!

My mum is in her mid 50's, she is very obese, smokes at night, and drinks every night.
Each night she would consume a shared bottle of red, and about a six pack of beer.
On weekends she and her husband go out every friday, saturday and sunday at about 4pm to late, home ealry sun, in which she drinks beer.
I've ask her "do you really have to drink everynight and go out every weekend" and her reply is - "Can't I have a life"!....that really makes me woder because soon I don't think she will have one!
My mother always complains about her health and she is never out of bed before 11am.
Is she an Alcoholic?
How can I make her realise what she is doing to herself?
Please help!!!undefined

12-10-2004, 07:22 PM
Sounds like she has just accepted being the way she is and even if it's going to kill her she is going to do what she wants to do. Sometimes when people are older they have a hard time getting over a habit. Maybe she feels different when she drinks, maybe she thinks people except her in the "bar" atmosphere. People do have a tendancy to be nicer when they are intoxicated. All you can do is tell her your concerns. Only she can change her ways and she has to really want to do it. You are right however, the path that she is on is a fatal one if not stroke or heart attack. You can bring statistics to her and let her know the risk factor of the choices she's making. You can't feel quilty because you can only do what you can. I wish you the best and I hope your mother finds the light and the way out.

12-12-2004, 06:35 AM
Are you still in school?/living at home???
Just wondering..
Its tough-as we get older(im speaking for myself)..our bad habits become more obvious to others-its starts looking a bit undignified-to our friends/family..alcohol/food/ciggs-all very addictive pleasures-
if you are of age..and your mom-is out having some fun-i guess its her call-
maybe she feels like she needs to go out and socialize/you know-have her freedom-fun times-and this is her outlet..not very healthy..and thats why you are worried.
Can you sit down and speak w/ her openly-about how you are concerned?
Maybe-start the conversation-with-i ilove you..and im worried about you-instead of how come..you know-people get defensive when there feeling 'under attack"..
hope this helps a little..

12-12-2004, 11:44 PM
hello goddessgrl thankyou!

I am a mother of three! I dont have a problem with her going out to socialise, but every day over the weekend!!! I'm trying to make her see their is lots more to do to enjoy yourself besides pubs and clubs! She mostly blames everyone else for her actions...even her husband Example: He won't go or do anything different!
I don't see her living the next few years with her health problem getting worse, and this scares me. I've tried talking to her and I just don't know what to do next!