View Full Version : Boyfriend on Drugs?

12-09-2006, 05:58 PM
I hope this is ok to post on this board, I post on another bord here for my health issused and have received alot of help.

I think that my boyfriend might be smoking pot again. I know that he did it when he was younger (he's in his 40's now). He told me that he quit when he started his job because they drug tested there. I think he's been working there for at least 15 years. We have been together for a little over two years now.

I am almost sure that he is addicted to pain killers. He hurt his back on the job a few years ago and he "has to have them" for his back, but that's not what I'm here to ask about.

I recently found in his pants pocket a hollow tube made of glass about the size of a ciggarette. At the end of it was stuff that looked like tabacco. I pretty much know nothing about drugs, so I don't know if this could have been pot.

I brought it out to him and told him that I had found it on the floor and asked him if he knew what it was. He told me he didn't and went to the garbage can. I'm not sure if he actually threw it away or not.

I told him that it looked like something that you would smoke pot out of, because of the stuff packed into it. He told me again that he didn't know what it was. I asked him if he was doing drugs and he told me no. I asked him again and said that I won't put up with that (which he already knows). He told me that he wasn't doing anything.

I also know that he's been spending a lot of time in the basement. When I ask him what he's doing he tells me that he is working or cleaning something. He will also go out to get milk (which is only about a 15 min drive) and come back and hour or more later.

I know that he has his old bong that he made while in highschool. I found that a while ago and asked him about it. He said he wasn't using it he was just keeping it because it was something that he made. This was before I found the other thing.

Is there any way that I can tell if he is using the bong?

We can't afford him to loose his job. I can't work because of my medical issues, and I am on his insurance which is saving me a ton of money.

I don't know what to do. Can any one give me any advice please?

12-09-2006, 06:48 PM
Get a drug test at the drug store. $10....and make him pee in a cup and test him if you really want to know. If he has a problem with doing that, then you know......pot stays in your system at least 30 days if you smoke regularly.

12-09-2006, 08:33 PM
You think your boyfriend is using pot again. Many people have been able to quit using drugs for a short period of time, like a handful of years, but once an addict always an addict, whether it is prescription drugs or not. People who are addicted to drugs, whether they are casual addicts or not, are natural born liars.

The glass pipe was not for smoking pot. It could have been some sort of fancy roach holder but it was very unlikely it was. It was a pipe that a person would stuff tobacco or pot into then add granules of meth or cocaine. More than likely it was used for methamphetamine. It is not uncommon for a girlfriend or spouse to not know what their husband is doing.

I mean, how often can a person clean a basement? I have OCD and I would eventually be finished even if I was a germ-a-phobe. He also leaves for milk but takes forever to do that. Well, wake up and smell the coffee. Not only is he a liar but he is also a cheat. He is cheating you out of time with him to score drugs.

I am sure you can check the bong to see if he is using it, but more than likely is that he doesn’t use that old thing. A person can get more compact pipes to be used for pot and bongs are kind of out. At least they are here.

If there is water or it is moist in his bong, then he is using it.

You say he must work? Well let’s see, he is probably an addict, he is a liar and a cheat. He is just beginning the hell drugs will bring. If he is an addict you will experience life in hell beyond anything you can imagine.

I would suggest for you to run away as fast as you can. Leave him before he takes you to the bottom of hell.

He must be having very liberal medical insurance for you to be on it?

12-11-2006, 12:44 PM
Dantheinsane - Just because you smoke pot doesnt mean your going to turn into a junkie/addicted or a person who cheats and lies. Thats purely speculation of an uneducated person. Listening to your advice will make any person lose their mind with emotions and thoughts.

always down
12-11-2006, 07:26 PM
What you describe you found sounds like a crack stem?????? Hes smoking crack in the basement and hes going to get crack whe he goes to the store for an hour. I think someone has to fill you in. You could only be so lucky if it was only pot.

12-12-2006, 01:58 PM
:rolleyes: yeah, it sounds like a crack pipe to me too... your right, she would have been luckier with pot.

12-20-2006, 06:45 AM

So you say I am an uneducated person because I know and believe that pot is not only addicting but very addicting? Interesting!

Not only am I an addict I am a big time pot addict. Also I started using drugs in 1968, summer of love, and so did many other people. I know massive amouts of people who promised, swore, committed themselves to use only pot. These old hippies swore that they used pot only. None of them stuck to their words. Some have died, others are drunks, most have turned to other drugs and experienced that effect.

Lets look at this from another angle.

Drugs are addicting, so is alcohol. Prescription meds, credit cards, food (ask a bulemic), sex, porn, computers, there is about 125 to 198 different 12 step groups (including marijuana), I could list this forever.

Yet, you say pot isn't addicting and I am an uneducated person.

Funny because I work in the education system, inside the classrooms.

Normal (non addicted) people do not defend the use of pot. Only pot heads and cancer patients. I don't think you are a cancer patient, glucoma, or pain patient.

Your idioticy makes me laugh.

12-20-2006, 07:12 AM
yes sounds like crack or meth. And I'd suggest that you try to nip it in the bud right now because you are heading for trouble. Better give him some ultimatums. peace and goodluck.:wave:

I don't think that pot is addictive (you either like it or you don't) but it definately is a gateway drug...but everyone has their own opinions right?

broke wife
12-20-2006, 12:59 PM
Did it have a smell to it? If it didn't, or only a slight smell, it was probably crack/meth pipe. If it had a strong odor (almost a skunk smell) it was probably just a small pipe for pot. I hope you smelled it because you'll definitely be able to tell by the smell.

12-30-2006, 06:01 PM
Is your boyfriend still using drugs? If he has stopped you would know it. He would notice a complete change in his psyche. He may become religious or he may be going to a 12 step program. No matter what, he wouldn't be the same ol same.

12-30-2006, 06:03 PM
Is your boyfriend still using drugs? If he has stopped you would know it. He would notice a complete change in his psyche. He may become religious or he may be going to a 12 step program. No matter what, he wouldn't be the same ol same.

01-01-2007, 07:24 PM
The pipe that you found could be what is called a "one hitter" pot pipe. It could also very well be for crack or crystal meth. If you saw some stuff that looked like tobacco hanging out, it was probably pot. Sometimes people mix their pot with other drugs too. Have you smelled an odor from the basement? You should go in there the next time he is in the basement and see if you smell anything.