View Full Version : Please help with my fear of fainting!

08-10-2012, 02:42 AM
I am in this choir, it's an amazing choir, and I love being in it, but every time we go to perform, I get really overly nervous about fainting, and if it is a really big competition I often get nervous ages beforehand and it affects my trip. We are about to go and compete in the national finals, and that is what's happening again. I know my fear is completely irrational, because I have never actually fainted on stage before, although I have felt really dizzy and as if I'm going to drop. The biggest problem for me is the mental side of things. Sometimes I get myself so worked up about it and then start panicking on stage, which I'm afraid will make me feel faint even though there is no reason to be.
My worry is quite strange because, being a singer, I do lots of solo performances, but in those I never have the same fear. I think I am just really nervous of letting the choir down (although people say that if I do faint, it won't affect the marks) and making a fool of my self in front of a big audience.
I have spoken to teachers about it, and I am going to talk to the conductor, and they have given me good advice about many technical things, like how to stand, have lots of sugar and stuff , make sure you keep breathing etc, but they haven't really addressed the mental side the problem, which I think is more the issue. The teachers have also said that if you feel faint or something, run off stage or sit down, but I think I would rather faint than do those things, so it doesn't really console me much! I am not afraid of hurting myself or anything, it's more what everyone else will think.
I know that the best thing to do is face your fears, or so people say, but the trouble is there are no real opportunities to face them before the competition, and performances are so wide spread that I can't just do it over and over again until I feel comfortable. I also really don't want this silly fear to ruin my trip, because I love singing and it will be so fun, apart from that!
Please give me some advice!!

08-13-2012, 11:00 AM
Hi Hathop,

I must say that really fainting isn't all that bad. It sucks if you're near something that you can hit but for it to happen on a stage it's really not a huge huge issue. I can say from experience you get the onset of the feeling like something's wrong or about to go wrong. For myself I have fainted once in my life and since then I know the feeling before it occurs so i know to sit down and have my legs elevated above my heart cuz im not getting enough blood flow to my head. Being on stage this may be more difficult as everyone will be wondering what the heck you are doing.

I had to do public speaking as a child and I never really knew why i would get dizzy or really sweaty palms or start to see stars... It was just so nerve racking being up there that I got to the point that I needed something in my hand to keep me calm. An elastic band on my wrist helped sometimes too. When you start to feel nervous lightly pull on it and for myself the feeling of something lightly tugging or pulling on my skin to make a light amount of pain brings me back to reality and makes thoes subconsious feelings go away..

Before I started talking I would always imagine myself somewhere that I found comforting. Which was in a field. Having the peacefulness of nature around me helped to get my courage up and fears out the door. Get lost in what you are singing and if you have to just imagine that you're in your happy place. wherever that may be.

If you get the fear try and replace it with a different feeling, embrace it or let it go. only hold onto what is going to help you at that moment, what's going to make you do your best...

Hopefully this helps?