It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Asperger's Syndrome Message Board

my nephew maybe has AS

Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 01-12-2012, 03:39 AM   #1
Join Date: May 2011
Location: ireland
Posts: 63
jujumcm HB Userjujumcm HB User
my nephew maybe has AS

Hi All,
my nephew is really badly behaved and I sometimes wonder is he on the autism spectrum. heres the things he'd do
does not socialise with other kids except mine who he sees reguarly
bites, hits, pulls hair
pulls his own hair out and any1 who will let him, then he twists and pulls the hair till its gone and looks for more
has irrational fears of loud noises like baloons bursting and crackers being pulled etc
talks really clearly and seems really intelligent
never sits still
can watch certain films repeatedly
is obsessed with buttons on eletronics, can repeatedly turn things of and on even though he knows it wrong(or does he)
his parents are too wrapped up in themselves to notice it and im really concerned. they dont get on and are not together and i sometimes wonder is it just because hes from a broken messed up home or is it more serious.
Their are so many different terms and abbreviations out there i dont know where to start. i also dont know how to broach the subject with his parents. should i just leave it to the health professionals to pick up on.
any input would be appreciated. thanks

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 02-01-2012, 08:27 PM   #2
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: ny
Posts: 5
sbo314 HB User
Re: my nephew maybe has AS


I understand your concern for your nephew and it is good that he has someone looking out for him.

What would be your goal in talking to his parents? To get him an official diagnosis? To improve his behavior?

It is possible that he does have aspergers, it is also possible that he does not. Does he socialize age-appropriately with your children?

So as to specific symptoms, I (as an aspie who researches this stuff for fun) will just tell you what I think of them:

Pulling his own hair out could be just a case of trichotillomania(compulsive hair pulling), it could also be related to a few other things.

Biting, hitting, pulling hair obviously can be related to just bad behavior for some reason or because, as you put it "hes from a broken messed up home". Sometimes kids behavior like that stems from lack of attention or other family issues. If that is it, a regular family/child therapist could be helpful. I used to bite and scratch my sister because she would pick on me verbally and I wouldn't be able to fight back with her using words and would get frustrated and upset and lash out. I almost never fought with other kids though (some of that is gendered though, I'm a girl and when I did fight it was viewed as highly unacceptable and not just roughhousing).

Irrational fears and problems with certain noises and stuff can obviously be related to various psych stuff, but hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli is common. I love ear plugs and wear them sometimes. I can't deal with 4th of July because of the fireworks. Certain sounds make me cover my ears immediately. I also HATE bursting balloons.

Not sitting still: that is most kids I know nowadays. Also, is obviously an ADD symptom or just a bored (or attention seeking) kid.

Talks clearly and seems intelligent: does he have a special topic or two that he talks about (i.e. special interest)? I had a pretty large vocabulary for my age when I was younger, partially because I enjoyed talking to grownups more than to kids.

Film thing some kids just do but I know a lot of kids with aspergers do that.

Electronics and buttons and stuff can be various things, can also be ADD or some other just general lack of impulse control. I sometimes have a hard time not touching things I know I'm not supposed to.

The health professionals who see him regularly though don't really know how to diagnose aspergers (very often). If his behavior is as bad as you say it is, has a school counselor picked up on it? The diagnosis is in some ways irrelevant, it is just a means to receive the correct treatment. However, it might be easier to (instead of suggesting a diagnosis for their son) try to find a way to just bring up the subject of him seeing a therapist.

Some of it also depends on how old he is, how much you think it affects his quality of life, how much it affects those around him, etc.

Closed Thread

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:50 PM.

Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
© 1998-2018 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!