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    Old 05-13-2013, 11:06 AM   #1
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    I was diagnosed with aspergers a few months ago but I've known I've had it for a while since reading about it in a magazine my I'm 26 years old now my parents could have done for me they just used to say I was an evil child and my Dad would hit me I ran away from home as soon as it was legal on my 16th Bithday I was let down by everyone because I didn't know what was wrong with me I didn't know I trusted people to easily because of the aspergers I just let people use me I ended up being a prostitute at 17 and taking drugs I was so unhappy always trying to please people and make people love me but they never did I tried to kill myself when I was 19 it didn't work I took so many drugs I'm lucky to be alive 4 years ago I got my dog and I love her so much and she loves me having her has saved my life I stopped taking drugs because I had to be alive to look after her and I have to keep myself healthy and happy so I can look after her well I did put on a lot of weight but I've lost it now by going swimming I've become obsessed with swimming though and it's really getting me down as I feel like I have to go swimming but everytime I go I get so anxious and there's always loads of people there that get in my way it's really getting me down then I think whats the point in even keeping my weight down anyway I love food and theres no point being slim it's not like I have anyone to go out with even though I have come a long way and I'm happier than I've ever been with my dog I still worry about things and let things get on top of me I wish I didn't have aspergers

     
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    Old 07-26-2013, 08:15 AM   #2
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    Hi. I have aspergers too. The first thing i'd say is be thankful for your dog, and be sure to always have one. I was diagnosed just last March, so I'm no expert, but I'd say find a social group, a Toastmaster's group, a church, someplace where they actually seem to care. Lots of places don't really care. If swimming keeps you slim then myself i would not drop it, because being heavy has so many health problems. Consider yourself hugged.

     
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    Old 04-26-2014, 06:28 PM   #3
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    Hey I've been there. I have tried multiple times to end my life. I'm glad I never. I've known I've had aspergers for 6 years, when I was 14. I've taught myself to build some walls but not too high(mentally) it's funny, I find a lot of people with aspergers are like me. They quite often love animals and they Trust too much. Believe me, don't worry about swimming. If there's a nearby Farm, ask if you can do some voluntary looking after animals. I did it and thanks to it I've managed to get through school. I've never had full determination with things. I've dropped out of college three times and I realised I'm just struggling. Get yourself a pen pal too! Tell your problems to someone who will sympathise but not be involved. It becomes much easier I promise! X

     
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    Old 05-07-2014, 02:43 AM   #4
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    Hi guys, I have never spoken to any adults with Asperger's before. I'm sorry that you have all had low points and struggles. I don't have Asperger's but have certainly had periods in my life like some of the ones explained. I am currently trying to understand my 8 year old son, one thing that really really upsets him is when he feels he can't give his side of a story or put his point across. He then becomes so upset he can't say anything. He also often starts conversations at mid way points and no one knows what he's taking about which makes him quite angry and he accuses us of not listening to him. I am hoping that some if you can try and explain to me how it feels for him and the best way to reassure him that we are listening and get him to calm down. I know a lot of it is frustration. Do you guys still feel like that now? What are your coping mechanisms?

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    Old 09-19-2014, 07:28 AM   #5
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    Hello,
    I have not been diagnosed with asperger's..then again i have not seen a professional. I don't like people either, not because they don't understand me..i just see most in a pointless manner. I don't get emotional and don't understand people that do. I prefer to speak to myself than to others because they ask too many questions.
    I don't think i've requested help because my family has always looked the other way yet semi supported me so i felt comfortable being the way i am. Clearly not all families act the same and i'm glad you were able to relieve yourself of them, even being on harsh terms (drugs are no bueno).

    Your swimming habit sounds like my running one, except i don't have to try and avoid people because there's no one there at 7.1 mph. maybe try finding a 24hr pool and swim in the middle of the night and/or day.

    to the replies..
    I think getting a dog is a brilliant idea, I had a couple of bearded dragons that were fabulous. they both died a couple of weeks ago...thinking about getting a dog as well.

    copeing mechs...i set new goals. My biggest (and longest) one is completing my masters..Physics keeps my mind occupied on every level possible.

    Hope this can help

     
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    Old 09-19-2014, 07:29 AM   #6
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    Hello,
    I have not been diagnosed with asperger's..then again i have not seen a professional. I don't like people either, not because they don't understand me..i just see most in a pointless manner. I don't get emotional and don't understand people that do. I prefer to speak to myself than to others because they ask too many questions.
    I don't think i've requested help because my family has always looked the other way yet semi supported me so i felt comfortable being the way i am. Clearly not all families act the same and i'm glad you were able to relieve yourself of them, even being on harsh terms (drugs are no bueno).

    Your swimming habit sounds like my running one, except i don't have to try and avoid people because there's no one there at 7.1 mph. maybe try finding a 24hr pool and swim in the middle of the night and/or day.

    to the replies..
    I think getting a dog is a brilliant idea, I had a couple of bearded dragons that were fabulous. they both died a couple of weeks ago...thinking about getting a dog as well.

    copeing mechs...i set new goals. My biggest (and longest) one is completing my masters..Physics keeps my mind occupied on every level possible.

    Hope this can help

     
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