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Old 06-18-2009, 04:24 PM   #1
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Fighting for my son

My son was recently kicked out of his daycare because the staff (in their words) did not feel they could handle his special needs. He had been going to this daycare for a year. My son has a mild form of autism and can walk, talk and is potty trained. At first, no one had any complaints about him. I suspect they were just trying to get rid of him because they consider me a threat. I had a couple of concerns about the center and reported them to the corp office. Shortly after, someone from the corp office informed me that my son was being removed. I was devastated! Children with disabilities have rights! I can't afford another daycare though. I am a full time college student and this particular daycare is funded by Head Start - the only subsidy he qualifies for. I called a few different numbers (Ohio department of job and family services, children services, head start association) and made it known that my son was discriminated against. When the staff was questioned, they LIED about what they said. The lady from the corp office claimed she never told me I couldn't bring my son back! My mother and sister were there with me and witnessed everything! They are just as shocked as I am. Now a lady from the head start association wants to have a meeting with me and the staff that told me not to bring my son back. How do I handle this and what do you guys think should happen next?

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Old 06-18-2009, 04:41 PM   #2
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Its sad that they try to hurt you by removing your child.Whatever the rights or wrongs of this case,i feel it is a nasty & underhand way to treat a special needs child.I hope this situation is resolved soon,and may you have the best outcome for your child.xx

Old 06-18-2009, 04:49 PM   #3
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I am somewhat familiar with my son's rights! A child with a disability CAN NOT be turned away due to their special needs. That is the law - at least in my state - if not the entire United States. There are laws out there to protect our children from these types of situations (ADA, ect.) I plan on calling the US dept of health and human services tomorrow. I just don't know what to do about this lady (who has worked in the daycare's corp office for 25 years and has a great rep) lying to me! No one believes me! In their eyes I am just a trashy uneducated single mom. I'm about to graduate with a degree in ECE and plan on becoming an early intervention specialist. I know a little about daycare centers and kids here. Should I be aiming to get the people fired who tried to kick my son out? One day they are trying to get him kicked out and the next they are claiming they didn't say that. What am I supposed to do...just act like it didn't happen???

Old 06-19-2009, 08:05 PM   #4
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this is tough. the most important thing is that your son is in a daycare where he will be safe and protected; i have concerns about the attitude of these people and it would leave me uneasy.

i would suggest calling your local county office or dept. of developmental disabilities and ask to speak with a caseworker about suggestions for daycares in the area that would suit your son's needs. it's best for him to be in a setting where he's 100% wanted.

i hope you can get this resolved.

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I agree with the below poster. Please look into other head start pograms. Your child does not need to be placed back in the same invironment with those uncaring people. I would not trust them one bit with my child. Your son deserves better.
Since your son has a diagnoses does he qualify for prechool services through the school district? My son did , there are programs for preschooler 3-5 and there were also programs for infants and toddlers who need them. After my don went to his specical prechool program he was bussed to his regular daycare program.
I was also a preschool teacher and worked for the same company. + knew a lot about early intervention , special needs children , and became better nad better at it as a single parent , and working in the field of early childhood development.
my son is now 16yr old in Aug. Still high functioning autism but has cognitive delays.

Old 06-30-2009, 08:33 AM   #6
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i am not sure i would want to bring my son to that place even if they would accept him now. The benefits that you receive needs have some sort of alternative in this event. Additionally, I would probably throw a law suit at them. Either event, you should contact an attorney.

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