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Old 11-15-2002, 10:25 PM   #1
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Unhappy Back surgery & no sex drive

My husband had a disk fusion in June. He went back to work in October & is feeling fine. The problem is his LACK of sex drive. This has been that way since the end of August. He has absolutely no desire. I feel so sad. I'm afraid is will be this way forever. He doesn't want to talk about it much either. Has anyone else had this problem & what did you do/what happened. Please help!

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Old 11-16-2002, 05:55 AM   #2
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Old 11-16-2002, 08:15 AM   #3
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Hey Sad,

So sorry to hear about this. I think the one thing that will help the most is to try to have a heart to heart with hubby. Be sure to have it somewhere very quiet and away from distractions - but NOT in the bedroom. And, try to approach from the loving caring side (as I'm sure you will). Perhaps he's afraid of re-injuring himself; or is his work stressful? When I'm really stressed at work I have the least amount of energy or interest. Is he happy or unhappy at work. When my hubby worked at a place he hated we hardly ever had sex. Lots of things can contribute to this.

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Old 11-17-2002, 03:29 PM   #4
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I am female and have not had much sex drive since L4/l5 fusion in 98. But I have also had a hysterectomy about two years ago. I just put it on to female problems. I don't know if the surgury affect male/female the same way but it is curious. I've just been thinking I had a "problem" [IMG] Judy[/IMG]

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Old 11-26-2002, 07:45 PM   #5
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If your husband had surgery in June it will take
at least 12-15 months to get feeling semi-normal
in his back. Your husband has clear messages of
how much pain he was in and I'm sure you've
witnessed how much pain he was in. Don't forget
fusion surgery takes longer to heal and it may
be harder on him, plus he has to go through the
growing pains through the months of recovering
from back surgery. When he starts to feel better
physically then he may want to desire you. His
sex life could return to normal provided he didn't
have any bowel obstructions or emergency surgery
because he couldn't excrete his body fluids. Give
it some time he'll be alright, but most definately
recovering from surgery is a slow and sometimes
painful experience. Me 3 years post back surgery
of L5-S1.

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