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Stroke Victim: My Love and Life Story

Posted 09-02-2010 01:08 AM by lifebeyond

Friends, I want to share you my own story of coping as a paralyzed stroke victim in a place where there is no medical help for poor patients like me to get better except for strong determination and acceptance of my destiny plus the encouragement of a very dear one despite the ups and downs of the love relationship.

My story:
I am a stroke victim for more than 3 years now (more reason was stress due to studies and my blood pressure went up). Based on me , I am more or less 80%-85% well because I can walk now and do some light work at home, go to the grocery store on my own, etc. than when I started as a bed-ridden patient. I am half-body paralyzed, right side, with little movement in the arms and hands but not opening the fingers (I can close them though). I can talk with a slur but still understandable.

I was a college teacher before the stroke (but no insurance as my length of service did not warrant the pension payment due to teachers serving qualified years of service). How I wish to undergo a speech therapy (perhaps on aid through a foundation or groups) so that I can work online as a teacher-tutor and earn something for my daily needs.

At 43, I am still single, and living with my sister's small children and a house help (she and her husband are not with us for financial reasons). We are not financially stable so that I am not able to get the regular medical treatment I need. My last medical treatment in the hospital was more than two years ago and the daily complete medicine intake plus physical therapy were 6 months only immediately after the stroke (again due to finances). The only medication I get now are anti-hb tablet (1 variety only) and multi-vitamins given by my uncle from USA plus some mixture of herbal medicine as tea, green tea and non-fat milk that I drink every morning. I eat meat sparingly, usually boiled or broiled chicken without the fat. In other words, I am on a healthy diet. One thing I do twice a week is hot-stone and shiatsu combined massage from a trained lady friend in reflexology. It's the only thing I can afford paying (in my country, services like this is affordable). I am a Christian and truly believe God would heal me soon.

I have a more than five years boyfriend overseas (our relationship goes beyond the stroke). He is poor and a true Christian also. Our only means of communication is chatting through the internet or calling by phone (and he cannot understand me except when I laugh and say I love you). We saw each other personally once - three years ago. I quarreled with him many times to free him. Yet, he still wants to marry me next year despite everything.

Honestly, a lot of my friends consider my life as worth telling. There is only one thing I could tell about all these. God is amidst all these. One day, He will finish my story and it must be good. Why? I believe I am favored by Him!

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    Sunsetnan's Avatar
    Sorry to hear of your health problems. It's good that you have some emotional support. I also had a stroke- a brain stem stroke at 45, although it never effected my speech.

    All I can tell you is to keep working your muscles. My physical therapist said not to listen to the statistics about getting only 80% function back. She said to just keep on working.

    If you can't afford light weights, you can use soup cans. I did, and they work just fine. The physical therapists gave me the rubber bands I was using for arm strengthening to take home. I did facial exercises in the mirror every morning. I sat on a big ball to get my balance back. Now, five years later, I still have some remaining problems but I'm told that you can't even tell that I had a stroke.

    Have every faith that God will be with you every step of the way on your journey towards recovery.
    Best Wishes,
    Posted 09-03-2010 at 12:35 PM by Sunsetnan Sunsetnan is offline
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    Thank you very much, Sunsetnan, for your encouragement, suggestions for exercise and positive outlook in life. Thank you, too, for believing there's God who can carry me toward recovery when I have faith.

    By the way, can you suggest any particular exercises in the face (I do the a-e-i-o-u)? How can I use a rubber band?

    Please do keep in touch when you have time. God bless us!
    Posted 09-04-2010 at 11:56 PM by lifebeyond lifebeyond is offline
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    Sunsetnan's Avatar
    Lifebeyond: I would be happy to keep in touch. Please post a question on the stroke message board and I will try to contact you there.
    Posted 09-07-2010 at 10:04 AM by Sunsetnan Sunsetnan is offline
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    [QUOTE=Sunsetnan;bt885]Lifebeyond: I would be happy to keep in touch. Please post a question on the stroke message board and I will try to contact you there.[/QUOTE]

    I would be very happy to keep in touch with you at message board too. Thank you friend.
    Posted 09-07-2010 at 06:40 PM by lifebeyond lifebeyond is offline

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